(Closed) Deceased Parents in Wedding Programs

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
2625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Hello again! DH’s mother had recently past and we struggled with what to do too.  We ended up listing my parents and his dad, and then directly under it we wrote “in loving memory of DH’s mother”


You could do something like that on the bottom of the program:

Special thanks to FI’s Parents

and in Loving Memory of Your Mom

Post # 3
2356 posts
Buzzing bee

View original reply
hunting_bride :  You can put in loving memory or something else that is sentamental. Goodness sakes you dont need to put RIP, but a nice simple note. If you do not speak to your father then don’t put him in. That’s not difficult. If he doesnt like it then oh well.

Post # 5
8947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

View original reply
hunting_bride :  Do you have to do programs? They aren’t necessary and could eliminate this issue altogether. If you really want programs, I don’t think it’s odd to list all the parents, even deceased or estranged ones. The purpose of the program is to make sure everyone on both sides knows who all the important people are, right? It’s not morbid to include your mom, it’s informational and appropriate. 

Invitations are a bit touchier. A deceased person can’t request the pleasure of anyone’s company, so it is morbid and unacceptable to send invitations supposedly from the dearly departed. You wouldn’t say “Ned and the late Maude Flanders cordially invite you…” But it’s perfectly fine for someone to invite people to “the wedding of Todd Flanders, son of Ned and the late Maude Flanders” — again, it’s informational.

If you stick with programs, I would include your mom’s name. No reason not to. I’m sorry for your loss, and hope your wedding is beautiful.

Post # 6
695 posts
Busy bee

I’ve never seen deceased relatives named in wedding booklets. We’re having a memorial candle with a photo of my mother beside it, maybe something like that instead?

Post # 7
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

The back of our program was the whole wedding party. It basically looked like:

For the bride:

My Dad

My Stepmom

The Late abwcmo’s Mom’s Name






and then the same thing for my husband’s side. 

The topic ‘Deceased Parents in Wedding Programs’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors