Post # 1
I am starting to design our wedding programs and I have run into a roadblock. My mother is deceased and I do not speak to my Father. I know Fiance would like his parents names in the program because they are helping pay for the wedding, so it would look odd to only have the parents of the groom listed. Is there a way I can put my mother’s name down without being morbid? I am doing a blurb at the end for those who cannot be with us.
Do I just list her name? or do I leave parents of the bride off completely?
Post # 2
Hello again! DH’s mother had recently past and we struggled with what to do too. We ended up listing my parents and his dad, and then directly under it we wrote “in loving memory of DH’s mother”
You could do something like that on the bottom of the program:
Special thanks to FI’s Parents
and in Loving Memory of Your Mom
Post # 3
You can put in loving memory or something else that is sentamental. Goodness sakes you dont need to put RIP, but a nice simple note. If you do not speak to your father then don’t put him in. That’s not difficult. If he doesnt like it then oh well.
Post # 4
My Dad isnt even coming, so no worries there! He will not be listed.
I think this is perfect. It makes it special for his parents while not leaving a gap on my side.
Post # 5
Do you have to do programs? They aren’t necessary and could eliminate this issue altogether. If you really want programs, I don’t think it’s odd to list all the parents, even deceased or estranged ones. The purpose of the program is to make sure everyone on both sides knows who all the important people are, right? It’s not morbid to include your mom, it’s informational and appropriate.
Invitations are a bit touchier. A deceased person can’t request the pleasure of anyone’s company, so it is morbid and unacceptable to send invitations supposedly from the dearly departed. You wouldn’t say “Ned and the late Maude Flanders cordially invite you…” But it’s perfectly fine for someone to invite people to “the wedding of Todd Flanders, son of Ned and the late Maude Flanders” — again, it’s informational.
If you stick with programs, I would include your mom’s name. No reason not to. I’m sorry for your loss, and hope your wedding is beautiful.
Post # 6
I’ve never seen deceased relatives named in wedding booklets. We’re having a memorial candle with a photo of my mother beside it, maybe something like that instead?
Post # 7
The back of our program was the whole wedding party. It basically looked like:
For the bride:
The Late abwcmo’s Mom’s Name
and then the same thing for my husband’s side.