Post # 16
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Busy bee
- Wedding: August 2016 - Temecula, California
My jeweler had an amazing ring that I just fell in love with. I took my husband (only together 6 months at the time) into the store and showed it to him. He fell in love with it too. My husband put a deposit to hold it that day! Two months later we were engaged! My husband was actually very pleased I showed him the exact one I wanted because he was not familiar with diamonds or style, etc. lol. We are both very direct so it worked out well. 🙂
Post # 17
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Helper bee
- Wedding: June 2018 - Porta, Asbury Park NJ
My finace and I shopped around together. I wanted a round diamond on a tiffanys band….ended up trying on a cushion and fell in love. So different!! Ended up picking my own diamond and setting on James Allen. It’s a big investment that we have to wear till death do us part!!! I feel it’s okay to want what you want!
Post # 18
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Newbee
I saw let him suprise you but i have to one of the most easy going women there is after joining this website LOL.. ive never been picky about my ring and if i wasnt fond of it i would wear it anyways because its coming from a man i love and adore….. whats the fun of a proposal if you ar not suprised what so ever…. dont try and plan every aspect of life and just let it happen ladies 🙂
Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
yes and no. In the end, after trying on a ton of rings.. I still went with the one i liked in the pictures.
But, to be fair, I decided I liked the style after seeing photos of a ring similar to it on a womans hand so at least I knew what it’d look like on a hand.
Post # 20
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE
When I first started looking, I loved oval halos. They looked SOOO good in pictures, and I thought that was it for me! BUT, I had an old princess Diana style oval halo ring and whenever I would put it on my ring finger I just wasn’t wowed by it. I went to walmart to try on cheap costume rings just to evaluate shape/size and tried on an emerald cut halo and BAM, there was just nothing else that compared! I knew that was the one. I HIGHLY suggest trying on rings, even by yourself, so you know what looks good on you! Then relay that info to your SO 🙂
Post # 21
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Helper bee
chanchito : we went shopping for my ring together and yes, it did take forever. While ring shopping, we were both able to find what we liked and didn’t like. I found out I like halos and he realized he didn’t care for them. It was nice for us both to figure it out together. However, if you think he’ll get annoyed, then it might ruin the experience for you. I suggest going to try on rings by yourself and then sending him a pic of the rings you like.
Post # 22
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel
Mine was a total surprise and I loved it!! Let him do a surprise proposal you won’t regret it
Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
chanchito : I second PPs advice to go by yourself or with a girlfriend to try some rings on. I ended up loving something much different than what I thought I liked.
Post # 24
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Bumble bee
My fiancé and I went shopping together. We picked out the stone from a diamond wholesale jeweler and discussed with the jeweler how we wanted the setting to look. I did not see the final ring until he proposed and even though I had picked the stone and described the setting I wanted, I was truly surprised when I saw it in person. I think you can still keep a bit of the surprise when if you have a hand in picking the ring. It’s a good middle ground.
Post # 25
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Worker bee
We ended up designing the ring together! Oval is .85 and sides are around .20
Post # 26
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Helper bee
We went together to put look at rings and I am very happy that we did! Although my FI has great taste, he wanted to make sure I loved the ring. We chose a setting I fell in love with on Pinterest and loved even more in person. I believe him seeing the look on my face when I tried it on made him want to propose even sooner! lol I also think the experience brings you two even closer and makes it feel real.
Post # 27
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Helper bee
I second all the advice to go and try some rings on with a friend. 😀
Post # 28
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Busy bee
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
chanchito : I think you should go look – even if it’s just you and a trusted girlfriend. You don’t HAVE to drag your guy on your shopping trip – go to some stores, see what you like at each, and then make a recommendation to him based on your choices.
I had my heart set on the Jolie from Brilliant Earth, but once I tried it on, the ring itself was too dainty, and not what I wanted at all. So keep that in mind, just cause you like it online, doesn’t mean you’ll love it in person.
Post # 29
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Busy bee
…IDK if this helps, but I have noticed a trend amongst younger brides where they agree to receive a ‘proposal ring’ with the understanding that it acts as the e-ring only if she likes it if not return/exchange it for one she likes within budget yadda yadda yadda (of course you guys gotta deal with a company w/that type of return policy) & not for nothing…some Bees shop and some go custom, get exactly what they want and are STILL not happy-go figure? Either way, the best to the two of you!
Post # 30
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Bumble bee
I agree with going to try things on. I thought I wanted an oval. I was convinced. Then I saw one on my hand and it didn’t look right at all.
I knew what setting I wanted, but wasn’t sure about the center stone shape, so Fiance worked with the jeweler so that it was still a surprise for me. I have very specific taste in jewelry, and he has little to no experience with it, so it was important for me to be involved on some level.
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