Post # 77
So today is my RSVP due date, and we’re still waiting on 42 people to respond =o( So frustrating. We’re not doing mail RSVPs either, it’s solely online or over the phone, so it’s not like we’re waiting on mail delivery or anything. I guess I feel lucky that we’ve had almost 80 people respond, but it’s still annoying that adults can’t simply click “yes” or “no” by a certain date. *sigh*
I’ve had one person tell me she can’t make it to the ceremony but will be at the reception. Makes it difficult to keep track of how many seats for one part of it and how much food for the other part of it!
Post # 78
I mailed my invites last week. Stats so far.
Total invited: 71
Waiting for responses from: 36
RSVP Date: November 19th
I can’t believe people are responding so fast. I really expected to have to track people down and beat them within an inch of their life… LOL JUST KIDDING
On a side note… Ever since the invites have been mailed I’ve been so nervous. Its like it made me realize how close it is and how much I have left to do! EEK!
Post # 79
Here’s our latest:
Total invited: 116
Waiting on: 29 (and that’s with me calling and getting 9 answers from people last night)
RSVP due date: yesterday =o( Frustrating
Post # 80
I cannot believe the early rsvp by dates, now I’m feeling a little stressed, our due date for rsvps isn’t until Dec. 14th, but we don’t have to have final numbers until the week before, maybe I should be a little worried though.
Post # 81
Okay, guys, after three more weeks, here’s where we stand:
Total invited: 121 individuals
Total accepted: 59
Waiting for responses from: 54
RSVP due date: Nov 15th
We have at least half of the responses in, so that’s good. But I’m just not sure if everyone is going to get their cards in before Nov. 15th. But that’s why we made the due date so early so that we can make sure we contact everyone before the exact catering count is due! 🙂
58 days and counting til the wedding!!!
Post # 82
That’s a good idea, and pretty much our strategy to it as well! We got the bulk of our responses early on, then only a couple of responses over the next few weeks, then a few more right before the due date. The rest we’re tracking down one by one… I’m really glad we gave ourselves a couple of weeks to get ahold of everyone! We ultimately ended up with just over 50% of people responding before the due date, so there’s a significant amount of the guest list that never responded.
Post # 83
Well, today is our RSVP deadline and we still haven’t heard from almost half of our guests. Here are our current stats:
Total invited: 181 individuals
Waiting for responses from: 87
RSVP due date: November 1
I’m leaving for Vegas for my bachelorette party in the morning (!!!). I’m hoping more people will respond over the weekend, but I’m guessing I’ll still have quite a few people to track down when I get back.
Post # 84
I don’t think your RSVP due date is too late. My final guaranteed count is due 30 days before…so I literraly HAVE to have an early date. I went even earlier because I wanted a good week to follow up with unanswered RSVP’s but that week happened to be during Thanksgiving week, so I just made it the week before that (November 15th). So really, I have 15 days after our due date to follow up with people.
Post # 85
here’s my update,
total invited-117 individuals
still waiting- 73
due date- 11/21
need to have final counts in 12/15
Post # 86
@MadameTussaud Oh my, what is wrong with people not RSVP!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 87
That’s not even the worst of it =o( When I started contacting people to find out if they could make it to the wedding, it got bad…. several people told me they had “mailed back the card a couple of weeks ago.” So I asked what exactly they mailed back because we hadn’t received anything in the mail and we did online-only RSVPs, so there was nothing in their invitation to mail back. Yeah, they didn’t have answers for that, so clearly they were lying.
I also had a couple of friends who got really mean about it. I don’t even know why, all I asked was if they could make it or not. I would have been fine with a simple no, but instead they got argumentative and told things that were obviously untrue. They were so horrible about it that I ended up crying for the better part of last weekend.
Post # 88
I was just thinking that my wedding kind of makes me hate most of the people I invited haha. people are so weird! we had someone tell us last night that they didn’t know if they could find a babysitter and we said oh, what have you done the past four years because you normally work NYE, and he didn’t know what to say, finally he said oh yea, he can go with my mom. WTF! this guy is IN the wedding! do people hate our weddings? what is the deal?
i can’t believe people told you they mailed in response cards when you didn’t have any!
Post # 89
Fiance and I said the same thing all weekend – we wish we could uninvite everyone because we’re starting to dislike most of them now! Honestly, how hard is it to just say “I forgot” or “I can’t make it”? I’m sorry you’re going through the same thing, but it does make me feel better to know I’m not alone in this.
I had one friend who argued with me over the phone for quite awhile. She insisted that I misprinted her invitation and it had the wrong date on it. I told her that I printed hers out along with 100 others at the same time and they all said the same thing. She kept arguing her point, then told me that she had thrown away the invitation right after she got it anyway, then acted annoyed that I was calling to find out if she could make it to the wedding. I was so stunned at her story and she got so mean over the phone that I just dissolved after that. It was awful =o(
Post # 90
those people suck! I can’t wait to get a final number. but then I am sure we will have the added drama of people calling to change their response, add someone, cancel and then the dreaded no shows….
Post # 91
Ughhhhhhh, I know that’s coming too. We already shot down one person who asked to bring a random date (and he asked 5 days AFTER the RSVP due date!!!!) We have several others that were more “maybe” than “yes”. I’m debating on undercutting my catering by a few numbers. I have a strong inclination we’ll have a few no-shows.