December 2018 POAS – The Infertility Edition! (6+ Months TTC + Other Issues)

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Post # 91
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

mrswannabemomma :  what province are you in that you would have to wait that long (unless you are choosing to of course, we’ll be at the 18 cycle mark when we go)? I think you’re around a year now right?  I’m in NB.

i definitely had to be on Darling Husband case to do the test! Here it’s not by appt, you do the sample at home then drop it off at the hospital…. but they only accept SA on certain days and certain times of the day, which is very annoying because they also want to revive it within 30 min! But that’s way better than him having to go to a little room at the clinic lol.

he complained the sample cup should have a wider brim lol

 

 

Post # 92
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Helper bee

anev :  We’re in AB, apparently the wait is just a bit long here for many things (I was potentially going to need foot surgery, and the wait was going to be 1.5 years! luckily I don’t but that seems ridiculous), so my doctor sent me for the CD3 and CD21 blood tests (I did 21 things looked good, so just got to do CD3 now). She said once those are back and my Darling Husband SA is back, she can refer me/and him to the reproductive specialist but it will likely take till March/April. Yeah this is our 12th cycle, and the other POAS boards were really bumming me out, so some lovely bees suggested I come here, and I enjoy it much more. 

Yeah here the clinic is also only open certain days at certain times, but you have to make your deposit at the clinic lol. My Darling Husband was telling me (since he was asking questions on the phone), and all I could do was giggle and say I hope they sterilize the rooms well. I wonder how he will find it lol. I’ll have to ask him about the sample cup size when he goes! 

I’m also doing some acupuncture since it’s covered in my health plan, and I dunno if it is actually helping, but it helps me relax so that’s nice. She also got me taking some chinese herbs. I did O this month earlier than I usually do, so maybe it’s helping! 

Post # 93
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

mrswannabemomma :  oh interesting, maybe because the population is so much smaller here in NB there’s less of a wait because fewer people to do ART. I’ll know soon enough exactly how long it is, also my OBGYN “warned” me about how it’s not free (I was well aware and their costs are on the website), but honestly it is probably cost prohibitive to a lot of people out here.  Are you seeing your GP or an OBGYN now? Maybe ask to have the hsg done asap since it needs to be in early days of cycle, and it’s another box to checking off before getting to RE.

But the usual wait time for things is crazy long if not an emergency. When I lived in pei I waited 18 months for an MRI on my knee, it was pretty much healed by the time I had the scan 😂.

Post # 94
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Helper bee

anev :  Yeah I believe it especially in the smaller provinces the cost may be more of a consideration. I’m seeing my GP not a OBGYN, I’ll definitely ask her about the HSG once I get all my bloodwork done, I think she already mentionned it to me on my last appointment. Thanks for the heads up I’ll remind her my next appointment! 

I am not at all surprised about the wait in PEI, the healthcare there is awful! I love PEI so much, it’s so beautiful and quaint, and I would totally consider moving there if it wasn’t for the terrible healthcare. 

Post # 95
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Sugar bee

Hi everyone, can I join this thread? 

ROLL CALL 

Your age/partner’s age: I just turned 41, my husband is only 39.

Baby #: 2

Cycles Trying: 6. I had a chemical pregnancy in September.

Current Cycle Day/DPO: CD14

Usual Cycle Length: between 30 and 36 – usually 33

Ovulation/Procedure (and what kind) Date: Probably CD18 or CD19

POAS/Beta Date: Won’t POAS until around Christmas.

Known fertility issues: None, other than my age, which wasn’t an issue with my first. I got pregnant a month before I turned 39 with #1. Had a chemical pregnancy in September. Still trying.

BFP Plan (BD Timing, supplements, charting, prenatals, etc.): Prenatals, supplements, acupuncture, OPKs

Trying anything new this month?: I will start temping if this month doesn’t work out. I’m a terrible sleeper so I thought temping wouldn’t work but I will try it.

Link to your chart if charting:

For fun: What is your holiday wish for this year (besides a little one, of course!)? Just hoping to have a relaxing and joyful holiday season.

Post # 96
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our vacation was wonderful! I was much less sad than I expected to be. If anyone needs a good vacation spot, we really enjoyed Club Med Sandpiper Bay. I had a positive ovulation test on Sunday, cd 13, so that worked out. We had plenty of time to baby dance on vacation, so we hit -4, -2, -1, O, and 1 so hopefully that’s good enough. Fingers crossed! I hate the TWW!

Post # 97
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

<u>mrswannabemomma :</u>  I do that all the time, my friend keeps reminding me that a lot of the time people don’t write about when things go well so that the stories I end up reading are biased towards the times that don’t work out. Glad he has booked it and that isn’t too far away, hope you have some answers soon.

larissakay :  sometimes it’s better not to ask, they know what they are doing and it can be stressful to know too much I find. How are you feeling now?

angel_baby_12_9 :  FX for the 2WW, sounds like you had great timing!

Update: Got the call from the hospital today, I was a nervous wreck waiting for them to call. They phoned later than normal so I was worrying. It was good news though, we have 8 good quality embryos in the freezer ready for when I recover. I am so happy with that news, gives me hope that we might not need to do a stim cycle again which would be such a relief. I did ask about the others as it seems like quite a high drop off rate from day 3. She said that 2 were slow to develop and had actually started degenerating, the other 10 had made it to blasto but didn’t have the cells split the way they would have hoped. She has said that the fact that the 10 were abnormal doesn’t say anything about the quality of the 8 and I do believe her but it is a little worrying. I just need to get better now and get myself ready for a FET next year.

Post # 99
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Buzzing bee

pearshampoo :  Hadn’t logged in for a few days. I’m feeling great, actually. I’m officially done with stims. We triggered at 2 am last night! I’m excited and nervous for ER. My estrogen is 3800 so they’re watching me for OHSS fairly closely. We’re still tenatively aiming for fresh, but they said they’ll cancel it if I show any warning signs.  But 8 is such a great number! Congrats. Are you taking a cycle off before FET or will you start prepping for transfer soon?

tulipdazey :  Keep us posted on what ends up happening. Hopefully the crazy confusing cycles are over and you can have some boring ones!

Post # 100
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Sugar bee

tulipdazey :  This calendar is so clever! Thank you for maintaining it, it must be a lot of work!

 

I’ve read through all of the comments on this post. I feel almost embarrassed to be here because even though we’ve been trying for 6 months and I’m 41 and not pregnant, I don’t feel like I’ve been put through the fertility ringer like everyone else. You are all so strong and such bad ass women!!  If you would feel more comfortable with me commenting on the regular December POAS thread instead, I totally understand.

We live in a not very large city in a technically rural area (according to the legal community). There is only one RE. It takes months to get in to see your OB unless you are already pregnant. I emailed the fertility clinic with the RE on Friday – they have a “comment us” link on the website. I just explained that I’m trying for #2, am 41, had a CP a couple months ago, etc. I was wondering what the next steps might be and if there is anything short of IVF that I could do.  (I was hoping the doctor would say ‘yeah, it’s your thyroid, you just need some pills.” Ha. As if.)  To my surprise, the doctor emailed me back right away. He explained that what I’m going through is normal for my age. At most, 25% of my eggs are NOT abnormal. And that everything other than IVF is unlikely to work. You’d think we’d be at the “let’s do IVF!” stage but we aren’t there yet, mentally. We are going to continue TTC’ing for 6 months and then see how we feel. 

I have my fingers crossed for this month. On Sunday morning, my OPK was very, very dark. It was a couple days earlier than normal. I also felt tons of pressure around my right ovary all day. This morning, the OPK was definitely negative. So, my fingers are crossed that we have our timing right this month and that the egg is one of the few that isn’t abnormal. 

 

Post # 102
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Helper bee

SLOBee :  Don’t be embarassed at all!!!! This is such a welcoming board and has made me feel so much better and well supported. I am 32, and this is our 12th cycle, and I joined on our 11th even though I also thought maybe I shouldn’t because I felt like things were just worse for others and I was coming in before. But honestly it’s easier to talk about issues here, without the constant bombardment from the regular POAS boards that would just make me really sad. We’re trying to get some answers as well. Can you see your GP and ask for a bloodtest to check your thyroid just to make sure if you are worried about it? Mine was an issue and took a few months to get under control. 

 

tulipdazey :  FX you can start your stims when you get back, I know it’s been a rough cycle <3.

Post # 103
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Helper bee

Also random question to the group, I think I need a new thermometer for tracking my BBT, I’m not willing to spend the amount on an AVA bracelet, I just can’t justify the pricetag, anyone use anything else they really like that gives a really reliable temp (I find mine fluctuates a TON!)

Post # 104
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Sugar bee

mrswannabemomma :  My OBGYN is on leave but is supposed to be back next month. I’ll make an appointment with her as soon as I can in January. I haven’t had a well woman exam since….2017? Not since before I was pregnant with my first. I think she will send me for whatever first round of blood tests are necessary. I don’t have *actual* concerns about my thyroid but I thought that could be an easy-ish fix. New doctors have always commented that my thyroid feels large but my levels are always where they are supposed to be. 

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