Post # 1
So my fiance and I are looking to wed around the 20th December this year and I am a little worried that people will be peeved about it being so close to Christmas.
I understand that it can be a tight time of year financially, but I do not want my guests to bring gifts, I just want them there to enjoy the day.
The reason I want a December wedding is that my 2 closes girlfriends will be in the state (Tasmania, Australia) for Christmas. One is coming from Queensland, Australia and the other from London, so if I have it at another time in the year, they may not be able to come.
So Bees, please help me! Give me your opinions, thoughts, experiences, ideas, anything! Good or bad, I want to know everything!!
Post # 4
@BerryBerry: I haven’t been to many weddings, but two of my high school friends got married within a week of Christmas/New Years. Personally, I think everyone will have an opinion: oh, sundays don’t work for me, or that’s too close to when I normally take a vacation, blah blah blah. I feel like, if you really want that date, check with those people truly close to you who you would really miss if they weren’t there. If it works for them (and you) do it. IF it’s important to have those people there, then change it. If you give them, it looks like almost a year! to plan ahead, there shouldn’t be financial issues if they are able to plan for the expense and what to be there! Anything else is just an excuse 🙂
Post # 5
I just experienced this.. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my friend’s wedding on Dec 29th.. I have to admit I didnt enjoy it as much as I would have wanted.. Between having to split between 4 families for the holidays (my parents are divorced and SO’s parents are divorced also. Oh and our families live 6h30 apart !) and my birthday being the 28th, it was not the best timing. But we did have lots of fun and all I could think of day of was making sure her wedding was perfect. So all in all, if its the best date for you, it’ll work out in the end 🙂
Post # 6
Personally, I don’t like December weddings. It’s such a busy time of year, and a wedding and wedding related events can take up a lot of time (example, people might not be able to make it to your hens because they have xmas parties to go to).
If you have your heart set on it though, I like @love108:‘s suggestion. Also have a look at the Dec 2011 boards and see how those brides made it work.
Post # 7
It worked out fine for us on Dec 30, but accept going into it that the less close people will be there most likely, due to the holidays. The most important people were there for us, but there were some people who are more just a similar social circle, not our close friends who would have come had it not been so close to Christmas and New Years and they weren’t busy with family and out of town.
Post # 8
We aren’t getting married in December, but we are getting married 2-3 weeks after the winter holidays in 2013. We sent out our STD’s a few months ago since we’re doing a hybrid Destination Wedding and no one has said anything yet. We planned it so that our friends who are in grad school could attend and we wouldn’t miss time from work (at a university).
It might be helpful to take a small poll amongst close family members (what we called the dealbreakers) to see what their thoughts are and if it’s a feasible option.