(Closed) Decided I’m taking my FI dress shopping with me!! Yup. I’m breaking tradition :)

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You know, I have always thought I would not show my fiance anything about the dress before the wedding, but then this weekend I went dress shopping.  Afterwards, I really wanted to talk to him about it and show him the pics, but told myself I shouldn’t.  Finally, I realized that if we were both okay with it (and we were), that’s all that matters!  So I showed him the pics, got his opinion, and I am so glad I did!  We talk about everything, so why not this? 🙂 

I have decided he won’t see my actual dress once I order it and its in my size, but his input was invaluable. 

I say go for it!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I see nothing wrong with taking your Fiance to help you pick out the dress (other than mind would become instantly bored and I would need a lot of icecream and word puzzles to distract him)

I am making my dress and there is no way I can possibly hide patterns and fabric scraps from him so he might see me in it, but he will see the dress for sure.

If it works for you then I say go for it. If the tradition doesn’t make sence to you then there is reason for you to follow it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Oh goodness, that sounds like a lot of fun!  I love tradition breaking, I’m sure you too will have a blast and have a wonderful memory of dress shopping together!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I took my Fiance with me. Lucky for him I chose the second dress I tried on. There’s nothing wrong with it and there were a few other men there.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@evylise:

I agree with your aunt. Who cares about tradition if it doesn’t make you happy. My Fiance has gone to every appointment with me. I trust his judgement and opinion above all others and other than making myself happy this dress purchase is ultimately for him.
Besides they won’t remember what the dress really looks like AND they won’t get the full shebang(hair, makeup, nails, excitement) until the big day.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

That does sound like fun!!  Hope you guys have a great time and find the one!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I took mine shopping with me, and while he was incredibly supportive, at the end of the day he didn’t remember one white dress from another. I ended up just going again on my own! lol

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

I seriously wish my Fiance was there with me when I picked my dress. I feel the same way you do, he is my best friend, why dont have him there? I DID want him to be surprised so I ended up going without him but have shown him which dress it is after because I couldn’t keep it from him lol. I remember thinking while I was trying dresses on, the one person I wish was here isn’t.. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I took my Fiance with me and I’m glad I did. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I went on a few dress shopping trips, and while I was the one getting overloaded and tired of dress shopping, my Fiance was excited to keep going!  He said he couldn’t wait to see me in more wedding dresses, lol, so he went with me everytime.  It was really important to me to make sure he loved what I was going to wear, so I couldn’t imagine picking the dress without his input.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think one of the reasons I had such a hard time choosing a dress was because I didn’t take, Fiance, whose opionion I value most above anyone, with me.  Good for you for bucking tradition!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I love this! I made Darling Husband come dress shopping with me, but he refused to look at me in any of the dresses. He just sat in the corner with his back to me. Oddly enough, he wanted to know all about the dresses I tried on and which one I chose. Thankfully, he loved it as much as I did. 🙂

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