Post # 1
Hi Everyone! I am struggling with deciding if I want to set the date for 2015 or 2016. We have been together for 6 years, so waiting until 2016 seems like soooo long from now! However….I have a busy plate right now and am wondering if 2015 might be too soon. I am currently working on my master’s full time, have an internship, and a full-time job. I manage it well and am just BUSY! I will be finished with school in December and am shooting for probably a fall wedding. Do you think that fall of 2015 will be too soon and too much for me to handle with all I have going on? Any input is greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
It sounds like you have a very busy life right now, why add wedding stress to the mix? Do yourself a favour and give yourself the time. You don’t want to regret having the wedding earlier.
Post # 4
@lthompson07281990: I think it depends on what type of wedding you’re going for. A small, easy wedding can be done in that short amount of time (although it will probably still be stressful). If you want a large, detailed wedding with lots of elements to it, go for 2016.
Giving yourself more time (2016) can’t hurt anything. My FI and I got engaged in 2012 and we’re getting married next weekend! So we gave ourselves 2 years (we aren’t crazy budy besides work but we wanted to give ourselves at least a year to save up).
Post # 5
I had to make the same sort of decision – you have to either compromise on the sort of wedding you have, or on the date, IMHO.
I changed our 80+ people wedding in my hometown, to a DW with 4 guests so that I had waaay less planning and worrying to do (and it suits us better as a couple). My MA won’t finish until Fall 2015, and our wedding is currently in August 2015. If I didn’t make our wedding smaller, it would have needed a lot more time credited to it, and it would probably have been moved to early 2016.
Post # 6
@lthompson07281990: I think fall of 2015 is plenty away – especially since you will have less on your plate after 2014.
Post # 7
@lthompson07281990: Take it from someone who’s wedding is in 4 months… We got engaged 2012, 2014 seemed logical, FI would be done with school and everything would be fine… He’s been working 2 dead end jobs for a few months now because he couldn’t find one in his field. I wish we gave ourselves a few months extra for emergency! I think you should plan for early 2016, and then early 2015, if everything is going the way you want and you’re looking for a venue, then maybe you can talk about having it late 2015? There’s a lot of things I did early on in the engagement; if I had waited, we could’ve pushed the wedding forward a few months and it would be fine. Nothing needs to be finalized untill 2 weeks before (well somethings) but I would your vendors. tell them you have 2 dates in mind and if most aren’t available for your 2015 date, then 2016 might be the answer.
Sorry that was long. Im just upset that FI has worked 5 night shifts in a row and we have to reschedule the tux appointment again because he needs sleep.
Post # 8
I’ll go against the grain here. I’d shoot myself if I had to wedding plan for 2-3 years….I’d rather have a shorter timeframe and just get it done! I enjoy wedding planning, but not for three years. I’m ready to have my life back and we’re only having a 10 month engagement! Life’s always going to be busy. If it’s not this, it’s that. 🙂
Post # 9
I’d go with the sooner one. I’m a full time student, working, and doing clinicals and the wedding planning really hasn’t been that stressful. You’d have over a year and a half, that’s plentyyy of time. Our engagement is 19 months and the wait is miserable.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2014 - Nazareth Hall
I think a Fall 2015 wedding would be perfect. There is a lot to plan, but not as much as one would think unless you plan on DIY-ing a lot. Fall 2015 still gives you a full 19 months if you get married in September and there really isn’t much to do once you have the big stuff out of the way until 6 months before
Post # 11
I am kind of in the same boat. I just got engaged, and have started thinking of venues and a timeline for events. I’d like to do Fall this year, but with everything I already have planned going on this summer, I think adding planning a wedding may be too hectic. So, then I’m looking at spring/early summer 2015 – and that just seems SO far away – but, would allow me to give 100% of my focus on the wedding and know that everything I want to do can be done. I’ve been waiting 33 years for this moment, and I want to know that I’ve done it the best I can.
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How do you expect your life to change over the next 1.5 years? I’m currently working 2 part time jobs while doing a Master’s, but I should graduate this December. My employment situation will almost definitely change as well. Those were things we factored in when picking a date, since I wanted to be done school first. We also could live on just his income and some savings if we had to while I’m job hunting.
Post # 14
Hi everyone! Thank you SOO much for all of your answers…they have been very helpful! I am sorry it has taken me a little while to get back to you! I think we are going to go with Fall of 2015! I will keep you posted on how things come along! Thanks again 🙂