Post # 1
I’m brand new to Wedding Bee… first time posting 🙂 And I’m hoping for some advice! I’ve been dress shopping it have decided on two dresses, both i absolutely love. However, they are completely opposite to each other! I feel the same way about both of the dresses and I also have that ‘the one’ feeling when I’m wearing them. I honestly do not know how I’m going to choose between the two!! Both are about the same price, both are stunning, and I can picture myself in both of them on my big day! I can’t buy two dresses and my parents/bridesmaids are also having a hard time helping me decide. They ultimately end up saying “it’s your decision and it’s a hard one!”.
Question is… if you were ever in this boat what was your ultimate deciding factor? And did you regret it?!
Post # 3
I went back and forth 3 or 4 times between 2 very different dresses.
It took trying them on back to back (1 on one day and 1 on the next day) with may parent’s to really come to a decision.
The final deciding factor was that I went with the on that I’d never seen ANYTHING like before. (And I’ve still never seen anything like it)
Unfortunately the one I decided on was TWICE the price of the other one.
I still think about the other one from time to time. But the one I got is timeless and unique, where as the other was a little more “trendy”.
Post # 4
For me it was the price, whether I liked it, and if those both worked, it was the recation from people when they saw me in it. I was torn between two dresses I loved. In the end, I chose the dress that made my mom and sister cry when they saw me in it. I wanted to have a “wow” dress and I certainly got it! Maybe have somebody else see you in the dresses and whichever gets more of a reaction, wins. In the end, we all want people to gasp in disbelief of our beauty when they see us.
Post # 5
Flip a coin, and ask yourself whether you feel relieved or disappointed at the result.
I was torn between two dresses. They were pretty much the same price. Like KatNYC2011, I chose the one I thought was more unique.
Post # 7
@sailor: I agree.
If you have pictures, post a poll on the bee! That can help too to have people who don’t know you/are outside observers vote on what looks best on your body!
Post # 8
Thanks for everyone’s input! I’m at work right now so I don’t have photos on this computer but do at home.
Post # 9
I was in the exact same situation as you — 2 very different dresses that I (and everyone else) loved pretty equally on me (seriously, I even posted a poll on here and the results came out almost exactly 50/50!). Both were the same price and I loved them both equally for different reasons.
Ultimately for me it came down to how I wanted to look and feel on my wedding day. One dress was very glam and sexy made me feel like a model, and the other was more understated and classic but still absolutely beautiful. In the end I chose the latter, because it felt like a wedding dress to me and I felt like a bride in it, more than the other one, which just felt like a gorgeous, sexy, Old Hollywood red carpet-type dress. I still love both dresses 100% equally but I am so glad I chose the dress I did for my wedding dress.
Post # 10
@LornaJane: Post the pictures when you get home! We love pictures here 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I was deciding between two dresses at the same bridal salon. I was there on a Saturday and loved them both. The owner of the store was my consultant, and she was delightful. I went back the next day to really decide because I KNEW it was one of those two. The idiot receptionist was the only one not busy (though I had called and asked if I needed an appointment and was told to come on in). So, she pulls the dress, I put it on, and she says, “Are you buying the sample? Because you know if you order it it won’t be the same, right? The waist will be a drop waist instead of natural.” She put a white sash around me to add the extra inches to the waist… and wait for it… I totally cried because it wouldn’t be MY dress anymore. Decision made. I didn’t even put the other one back on. She ended up calling the owner (because she had been such a moron), and the owner promised me the dress I ordered would be the same as the sample.
Moral of the story, which is the dress that you wouldn’t change a thing about?
Post # 12
To help you decide, think about:
- your venue
- how you want to feel (romantic, edgy, dramatic, etc.)
- look and feel of your ceremony and reception decor
- ask your fiance what he pictures you in
What helped me decide between a *few* dresses was pulling the pictures up on the computer, I played the ceremony music I plan to use, closed my eyes and pictured myself at my venue walking down the aisle. I then opened my eyes looked at one dress and decided if it matched what I was feeling. Then I repeated the process each time opening my eyes to a different dress. I was able to choose immediately this way.
Post # 13
I had an idea of how I wanted to look on my day and I was trying to stick to that. I also wanted pink/blush, which in and of itself, helped me narrow down the field.
Then it came down to two dresses. One of them was much more than the other and I had a budget. So, I picked the one that looked the most like it and added some things to it to make it how I wanted.
With both, there were some things I wanted to change anyway.
Post # 14
The fact that I lost all sense of reason when I put it on! Seriously. It was probably the 20th dress I’d tried, and while there were a bunch I really liked, I hadn’t ever just been willing to sell my car, eat ramen and never buy another magazine again just to not have to take one of them off!! (thankfully, none of these things actually happened – although I do really like ramen. College hangover?)
But I agree with the PP about flipping a coin – if you feel disappointed afterwards, you know it’s the other dress. If that still doesn’t work, try on more dresses. I’m not kidding. You might not have found the “one” yet. But, if you don’t feel like trying any more on, try a pro/con list – weight of dress, ease of dancing, appropriateness for venue, possibilities for coordinating bridesmaids dresses, etc.
Post # 15
I was in the same boat and my family helped me decide. Once I had it narrowed down to my 2 favorites, I immediately went from one store (they were at differnt stores) to the other so that both dresses were fresh in my mind. When I was standing in front of the mirror in dress #2, my entourage all said they could see in my face that I loved that dress more than the other (even though in my mind I still had no idea)!
It was surprising because my entourage (mom, sister and best friend) loved both of the dresses but they had all liked dress #1 better. However, they all admitted that dress #1 was more “them” and dress #2 was more “me”.
Do you have pictures of the dresses? I’d love to see them!