(Closed) Deciding NOT to use photographer friend…how to tell her

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Just tell her that there was a confusion between you and your mom and she went and booked a different photographer. 

There doesnt need be a huge convo. Just be friendly about it and tell her that you guys will get together “soon”. 

Post # 5
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just had to do this. She was totally understanding. Remind her about how you were talking to other photogs and then blame it on your fiance. ha. But say that he really liked the one person who is specifically a wedding photog and has done work in the locations you’re getting married. But make sure you flatter her talking about how much you like her and would totally use her in the future for x, y, z.

That’s what I did and there were non hard feelings at all.

Post # 6
1405 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t understand why you have to lie, just be honest.  If she is a professional she will understand.


Post # 7
4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t agonize over it too much. Just tell her the truth, and keep it simple. Don’t apologize profusely or anything. Just say that you guys ended up choosing one of the photographers that your mom contacted and leave it at that. 

Post # 8
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@USER876:  100% agreed.

Professionals understand that they are not the right choice for everyone.  I absolutely understand that when someone chooses another photographer there are many types of criteria that determine the best match for that couple.  It’s not personal.  🙂

Post # 9
1587 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@tdcwriter: I actually hav a photographer friend and we decided not to hire her. We’re still in the early part of planning so we havent told her yet, but we are just going to simply tell her that although we thought of her and would love her to do it because we know she would put her heart and soul into our day, we are just going to tell her that we have decided not to hire any friend vendors…

This is for numorous reasons…
1. We will just advise her that we would rather have her attend and participate in our wedding instead of her working it

2. tell her your afraid that if you turn into a “bridezilla” you dont want it to ruin your friendship

3.you can just maybe lie a little and say that your fiance wanted someone else, or since your not paying for it… you have to go with another option 

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