Deciding on my new name…what did you do?

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: How did you change your name?

    Maiden name is new middle name, took partner's last name

    Kept first and middle name, dropped maiden name, and took partner's last name

    Kept all of my names and added partner's last name before or after mine

    Didn't change my name at all

  • Post # 16
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

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    emilyrose333 :  I’m dropping my last name and taking my FI’s.  IT’s mainly because my last name is unpronoucable and ugly and his is pretty cool sounding and easy to spell.  If I had a halfway decent last name though, I’d keep mine.  I never understood women who took a good sounding last name for an ugly one though. 

    Post # 17
    1393 posts
    Bumble bee

    I will not be changing my nam at all, but my fiance will replace his last name with mine when we get married.

    Post # 18
    243 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY

    I don’t have a clue what I’ll do yet. My friend drunkenly asked about it a couple weeks ago while we were at her house hanging out with her and her husband (my SO’s best friend) and was like “I have A LOT of opinions about married names.” I told her I didn’t know what I’d do and my boyfriend was like “Wait, you don’t want my last name?”

    He seemed slightly hurt and panicky as if it was supposed to be some sort of given. All I know is that I want to talk about it like proper adults rather than have it yelled out by a drunk friend on a random Sunday afternoon.

    Post # 19
    37 posts

    My last name is long, difficult to spell and pronounce, plus I gave two brothers to carry it on. I am dropping it for SURE. Lol. My Fiance said he supported whatever decision I made on that, and honestly, if my name wasn’t such a pain, I would have considered keeping it, but I can’t wait to not have a difficult name. 

    Post # 20
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    You should look into the process of how that goes. Where I am from, you cannot change or drop your middle name without doing a legal name change which costs money and requires a court document and a new birth certificate. I have decided to just take my husband’s last name rather than hyphenate. Hyphenating or taking a partner’s name is free. But even though it should be an easy process it is kind of a hassle to change my name on everything.

    Post # 21
    1904 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    I kept my first name dropped my middle name and my maiden name and I kept his name. So now I have a first name and a last name.

    Post # 22
    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

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    malayna :  That sounds great to me, I wish white/Western society wasn’t so weird about names! In your culture, may I ask what last name the children get? My husband doesn’t mind me keeping my name but he will want any kids to have his 🙁

    Post # 23
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    We both kept our names and any future kids we have will get both, keeping with his culture.

    Post # 24
    6411 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    emilyrose333 :  I dropped my maiden name completely and took my husband’s name.  And haven’t looked back 5 years later

    Post # 25
    1037 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

    I hyphenated. So I’m Firstname Maidenlastname-Hislastname

    Post # 26
    1406 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    If you don’t like your last name, maybe drop it.

    I am also young and don’t have to worry about a name change affecting my career so much, but I do like my maiden name. So I plan on going First Middle Maiden (as a second middle name) NewLast.

    By having my maiden as a second middle, most of the time I will be going as Mrs. NewLast, but still retain my maiden name. This will also make it easier to prove my identity from the maiden name to new name switch, and if for some unfortunate reason we divorce, it would make it easy to switch back.

    Post # 27
    566 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I kept my maiden name, and have 0 regrets. After 28 years I was quite attached to it and my husband was happy for me to do whatever.

    Post # 28
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I’ll be dropping my last name since I’m from overseas and locals can’t pronounce or spell it, ever. Admittedly, I wouldn’t have changed it if I was still living in my home country, but the number of times I had to re-issue the docs here because my last name was misspelled, or endure it being butchered when pronounced…I’d rather get a new one, thanks. 

    Post # 29
    692 posts
    Busy bee

    Here’s what I did: 

    I still have my fathers last name even though he is not in my life, by my choice, and I haven’t spoken nor seen him since 1999. 

    My mom will be giving me away at my wedding. My wedding is in October of this year .

    I’m currently in the process of changing my last name to my mother’s last name. Im surprising her and want all documents (marriage certificate, church documents) to reflect her last name. 

    Once I’m married, I will drop my middle name and replace it with my maiden name (my mom’s last name) and add on my husband’s. 

    Post # 30
    3858 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    I tacked his name onto mine, so I’m first, middle, maiden (as second middle name), his last name. I didn’t want to drop any of my names, but it meant a lot to him for me to have his name, so that was our compromise. 

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