(Closed) Deciding when to TTC?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What was your deciding factor for TTC start date?
    Maternity Leave timing : (26 votes)
    9 %
    Wedding Night : (21 votes)
    8 %
    Job Change : (19 votes)
    7 %
    Raise in Salary : (24 votes)
    9 %
    Certain Age (i want kids by the time i'm ___) : (86 votes)
    31 %
    Buying a House : (32 votes)
    12 %
    OTHER : (39 votes)
    14 %
    I just wanna see the poll answers! : (11 votes)
    4 %
    I LOVE Polls : (19 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FreckledFox:  My Darling Husband is the same way. I’ve tried to get a timeframe/date out of him.. the closest I’ve gotten is that he wants to wait until after our anniversary at least, lol. I think a big thing for us was waiting to find out if he was getting promoted, which luckily he did, so I would say after our 1 year, we’ll start actively trying. In the meantime, I really try not to even think about it. It drives me crazy!

    Post # 5
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    2202 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    DO IT RIGHT NOW!!! Peer pressure!!!! Tell your Darling Husband I said it was okay πŸ˜€ xoxoxo xoxoxo 

    for us it was (bhahahahah I am so used to chatting via email I wrote down Darling Husband name whoops) Darling Husband got his new job, was making twice the income he used to, we weren’t sure if my body was even able to make a baby, I think I was ready around the same time as Darling Husband but for him, meeting his twin sisters baby and knowing in that moment he wanted to have kids too is what made it real & was the driving force for him. I was just happy to come along. We had planned to start at our one year anniversary when we were settled in a home…. Bhaha I guess the universe sometimes has different plans for you. Xo

    Post # 6
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    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We talked about TTC right after the wedding for a very long time. Technically I didn’t remove my Nuva Ring until a few days after returning from the honeymoon to avoid AF while on vacation. We always knew we wanted children. Getting married was the last step before we decided to try. Hopefully your Darling Husband gives you a more definitive date soon πŸ™‚

    Post # 7
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @FreckledFox:  I feel your pain! I told him he better not try to change his mind either, haha. There are so many reasons I want to start soon, we’ll just have to see how things go.

    Post # 8
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    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I always wanted to wait until 1 year of being married, never really cared which month our child would be born (except I would like to avoid an xmas baby if possible). Darling Husband has always said he wants our child to be born in the spring or summer. I don’t want to wait until summer 2015 so it looks like we will start trying this fall to have a summer baby 2014 πŸ™‚

    That also allows us to enjoy this coming summer, beers on the patio etc (our first summer married)

     

    Post # 9
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    3830 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    i’m getting more mature, which doesn’t always have to do with age, but is heavily influenced by it. 

    When i’m ready to not be so selfish anymore, that is when we will have a baby.

    Post # 10
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    If you had asked us last year we would have said we were a few years off. Then we timed it out with my career (aiming for mat leave after completing grad school but before I start my provisional training), his career (we don’t want the baby born during his “away” season) and then we both got mad crazy baby fever and decided to pull the goalie with the reasoning that it made sense for our careers to do it now, and having already purchased a house with a cute little baby room, there wasn’t anything else holding us back!

    ETA also one of the swaying factors for Darling Husband was not wanting to be an old parent, and I have always been worried that we might have fertility issues since we’ve never had a pregnancy scare in 6.5 years

    Post # 13
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    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @FreckledFox:  Well Darling Husband and I were going off the projected promotion date that his old district manager gave him.. but as of yesterday, we’re not sure anymore because his new one is an ass. Cry I hope we still stick to the date, because I know we’re going to be fine financially. Just not as comfortable as we were going to be before. 

    Post # 14
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    1564 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    For me, it was definitely age, age, age! I’m 30 and Darling Husband is 32. We wanted to be done with babies before 35. And everyone that we are friends with are having children at this point so we know that we would have other friends that have kids that are close in age. It just seemed like the right time.

    I did originally want to wait longer so that we could have time to just be married. Mainly because my parents were super young when they got married and starting having babies right away. I think they just didn’t spend enough time together to really know each other and that was a huge factor in their divorce later on. But I changed my mind as my baby fever starting raging.

     

    Post # 15
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    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My Darling Husband was firmly against the idea of even setting a tentative timeline until he landed a job to switch his career.  Last mention of it, he said that once we move to the new job location and settle, we can start “whenever we feel like it”, which I think was his way of saying he wants to feel out the new location and job and our finance situation, as well as how prepared he feels for such a big life change.  In the mean time, I went off my pill for non-TTC reasons, but once we’re settled after the move we’ll talk about whether I should go back on it or not.  I’d like to take pre natals in the interim, just in case he says “screw it, let’s start now!”, but I’m worried about jumping the gun on that one!

    Also, because of the impending career switch, we have to wait 90 days for his insurance to kick in, so that’s I guess our bare minimum wait time.

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