(Closed) Deciding when to TTC?

posted 7 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What was your deciding factor for TTC start date?
    Maternity Leave timing : (26 votes)
    9 %
    Wedding Night : (21 votes)
    8 %
    Job Change : (19 votes)
    7 %
    Raise in Salary : (24 votes)
    9 %
    Certain Age (i want kids by the time i'm ___) : (87 votes)
    31 %
    Buying a House : (32 votes)
    12 %
    OTHER : (39 votes)
    14 %
    I just wanna see the poll answers! : (11 votes)
    4 %
    I LOVE Polls : (19 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 77
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    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I voted 1 year anniversary but really I just wanted to go on a romantic trip alone with my Darling Husband before we started ttc. We went on our belated honeymoon in July 2012 which was almost a year after we got married. There was no way I was going to get KU before our trip because I wanted to take advantage of the all-inclusive and have fun with my Darling Husband. Also, we already have a 4 year old, so I knew it would be a lot harder to go on a trip just me and Darling Husband if we had to get a sitter for two kids instead of one. 

     

    Post # 78
    Member
    746 posts
    Busy bee

    I always said I wanted kids by the time we turned 30 (our birthdays are two weeks apart; we’re 32 now) but my bipolar disorder intensified, and I was really sick for several years in my late twenties.  I finally was emotionally ready/able to wean off the many medications last year, and we just started TTC last month.  It’s been a whirlwind already, what with dealing with my newfound, unmedicated self in addition to the TTC bag of emotions!  So I voted for “other”.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 79
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    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    For me it’s the wedding night and the fact that we will be married. If I could I would start ttc now, but it’s probably just sensible to wait until after the wedding in case I get really sick, tired or whatever. There is no other reasoning, we could be in a better position financially, we could wait until we’re higher in our careers, but I want a baby and I want one now, there is no reasoning with that! lol

    Post # 80
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    6843 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

    @ChemistryBride:  It’s good to see you around these boards, lol!! I am glad things are working out for you and good look job hunting ๐Ÿ˜‰

    @FreckledFox:  I laughed just a little when you said that your Darling Husband would freak out if he saw the pre-natals. I got my Darling Husband used to see me taking them even before we got married. I was in BC and thought it would be a nice treat to my body to take the pre-natals at the same time. I’ve been taking them for almost two years. I highly recommend all women to take them. 

    Post # 81
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    1782 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m at the age that I feel comfortable reproducing and so is my FH! At this time, we just want to be married first. I feel like I’m with the love of my life, we’re both college educated with successful careers, love each other, and we’re emotionally ready! I may wait a couple months after the wedding, but I don’t see us waiting too long! We’ll see. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 82
    Member
    700 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I want us both to be done with our masters degrees (he starts next fall on a two-year program; I finish next May). Then, we’ll find jobs in our fields (hopefully!) and start TTC.

    Post # 83
    Member
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We have an overseas vacation planned for Summer 2014. Fiance was SUPER opposed to waiting that long to TTC and wanted to cancel the trip when we did the math… the trip will be 8-9 months after our wedding date! I was not about to cancel this trip, because the only reason we can afford to go is because we’re staying with friends, and who knows when we’ll get this chance again AFTER we have kids?? So I agreed that we could TTC 5 months before the trip, just so I’m not in my last trimester. 

    Post # 84
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    1284 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @FreckledFox:  Okay so I’m not yet married or TTC but we have agreed that once we purchase a house, the next step is for me to get my implanon removed. We won’t be actively TTC at that point, just not preventing and hoping it happens in time. If it doesn’t, after like a year, we will try a little harder. Haha!

    Post # 85
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    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We haven’t decided for 100% sure yet, but I think we will prob start between Fall 2014 and Spring 2015. The reason for the timing is because we wanted my husband to be done w/ school first (night school MBA). With us both working full time and him in school nights, we just have too much going on right now. We’ll prob start pretty soon after that though because I will turn 30 in Fall 2014 and I want to be done having kids by the time I’m 35.

    Post # 86
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    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We originally wanted to wait until I had finished nursing school, but I already have one Bachelor’s degree and there is no telling when I will be able to get into nursing school because of the massive waiting lists!  Since my Darling Husband is 38 (I’m only 25), we decided to start NTNP right after our wedding.  He doesn’t want to be a really oid dad, and I at least want us to have one child before he’s 40!  I figure I still have plenty of time in my life to be a nurse (my absolute dream) but at this point in my life I want a family, and I am pretty happy in my current career where I can wait a few years until going back to school.  DH has his own business and is a contractor so he makes his own hours which will almost completely eliminate the need for daycare.

     

    Obviously going back to school with a child will be a lot of work, but being a mom and a nurse are both so important to me that I will do everything I can to make both a reality.  We also do not have a house yet, and I don’t see that happening for us for a long time.  We are renting a really nice house for a great deal right now, a comparable house here in Alaska is way over what we could afford.  So I guess you can say we adopted the mentality of, “If you wait until the perfect time, it will never happen.”  You just make it work when it happens. ๐Ÿ™‚

    ETA:  I also have AMAZING health insurance through my job that I probably would not have if I was in school so that also helped our decision a bit, too. 

     

    Post # 87
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    1811 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’m one of those crazies that has a specific date. We want to finish something big together as a married couple before we start ttc, so we are running a marathon together that just happens to be the day before our 1 year anniversary. Now the big question is if we will have any energy to BD after running that far!!!

    Post # 88
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    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    For Darling Husband its because he wants kids before he’s 30… for me its finances.

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