Deciding who sits at which table…

posted 8 months ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

It’s perfectly okay to mix couples who are related or know one another with those who aren’t and don’t.  We’ve met many nice people this way. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m not seating people with different groups. My work friends will be at one table, other friends at another, family split by my moms side and dads side. Same with FI’s guests. No assigned seating but I will assign table numbers. 

I would certainly rather sit with those that I know than half I know and half I don’t with the other half at an adjacent table. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

It doesn’t much matter either way.  I’ve been seated with groups of people I already know.  I’ve also been seated away.  Usually when I’m seated away from people I know, the host has put great thought into it (and the people I know aren’t like my best friends).  I had one friend seat me by some people I had never met before, but she thought we would really get along.  Turns out I had a great time chatting with a few of them and am still friends with one of those people five years later.  As long as whatever you choose has some thought and care into it and you’re not just haphazardly throwing people anywhere they fit, I find I’m usually fine with whatever way a host decides to seat people.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

We’re assigning tables and grouping people together that are familiar with each other. But its simple for us since our guest list is small. I think the only people who won’t know each other well will be our parents but we asked and they both preferred to sit at the same table since the only other time they will have to speak is when we take them out to dinner. As a guest I don’t like sitting with strangers. I have no problem meeting new people (on my own time when I choose) but I’m a lot more comfortable with people I know. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK

We’re planning to sit people in their social groups where possible.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We will sit everyone so they are acquainted with the others at the same table. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I seated people with friends and family wherever possible. I did have a couple friends who didn’t know anyone else there other than their SO, so I seated those couples with people who I knew were welcoming and inclusive. I’m not against making new friends at weddings, but I’d much rather sit with people I know if possible, so that’s how I did my seating arrangements.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Our wedding is small and we could not really avoid having to “mix groups” (52 guests). We are having a sweetheart table for ourselves. This way (as well as getting some ‘alone’ time during the day) our bridal party are free to sit with their SOs during the wedding breakfast.

For the rest of the seating plan, we have chosen couples to go together who either already know each other, or those who have similar interests. There are a few couples who don’t really know any of the other guests so we have “matched” them with who we think they will get along best with.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

We tried to keep everyone who knew each other and everyone in their families together. For friends who dont know many people, seat them with people of similar age and hobbies if possible. Accept that you may have one table that just doesnt seem to fit and is a mismatch of people. 

We ended up with 7 tables where people were close and knew everyone else on their table. Then we had 1 table of friends who came in couples and knew no one else. They were all recent Phd graduates with similar hobbies so they all got on great. Then we had one table of our parents friends and odd couples who we didnt know but ”just had to” invite. That was our mismatch table but we didnt really know where else to sit them. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We actually just did our seating plan yesterday and we kept it really simple.

Tables were made up of the following:

– Older family (grandparents, aunts, uncles etc)

– Younger family (siblings, cousins and their dates)

– Colleagues from both workplaces mixed

– College friends

– Highschool friends

– FI’s parents’ friends

– My parents’ friends

Was easy for us though as everyone gets along. 🙂

Don’t over-complicate it, remember that they sit there for like 1.5 hours max and it’s just to have general chit-chat, listen to speeches and eat.

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