(Closed) decimated guest list

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Yikes. That stinks.

I think you and your Maid/Matron of Honor should just try and nail people down ASAP.

Enjoy celebrating with those who can make it, and don’t worry about those who can’t.  No matter what I’m sure it will a beautiful and fun wedding!

Post # 4
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Unfortunately there is nothing you can really do about your guest list.  Times are tough and for many people this means no travel, etc.  I think you will find that a drastically reduced guestlist is pretty common these days.

As far as your bp situation.  I would contact the other girls and just politely nudge them, something like "(MOH) is really try to get the plans finalized on the bachelorette party, so please respond to her ASAP, etc"  You are likely are the common thread so get the communication rolling.

Good Luck! Remember your wedding day will be perfect no matter who attends ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I feel your pain. For me, it’s hard to understand why some friends won’t be able to come to my wedding even though I know I’ll have a good time anyway. I’m imagining excuses beyond the regrets, especially for those who haven’t met my Fiance.

You will have a good time. And you can make a chance to see those friends in another time. I think travel is preventing a lot of guests from coming to my wedding, not sure about your case. 

And you should follow up with your ‘maids to get everybody together for your party. Sometimes people need a little encouragement that you want to hang out with them, especially if they don’t know your Maid/Matron of Honor well, a personal invitation from you could help. 

Post # 7
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh, I totally understand how you feel!  It’s been difficult for me to know that a lot of people I really wanted to come aren’t going to be able to make it.  My best friend has finals the day after our wedding at a college on the east coast, and most of our college friends have declined because of graduations, finals, money, etc…  A lot of my family (who said they wanted an invitation and would try really hard to make it) have also declined.  And then there’s the other half of our guest list who haven’t even responded yet even though our deadline for RSVPs in tomorrow.

I know it can be really disappointing, and I for one have a tendency to feel personally rejected by declined RSVPs and late RSVPs.  Now that we’re so close though (and you are to!) I’m trying to just not to take it so personally.  There might be a lot of reasons why people can’t come even if it seems like on the surface they should be able to make it.  I’m just trying to keep in mind that the most important person (my Fi) WILL be at the wedding, and that’s all that matters.  Well, that and the fact that we are saving a bunch of money since only 55 guests will show up!   

Post # 8
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My confession as a former bridesmaid:

I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a girl I met in college. I only had 1 class w/ her & she already asked me to be in her wedding. I was 1 of 4 total BMs, so it’s not like she didn’t have any friends she could ask. She wanted me to stay at the hotel the night before the wedding for a slumber party. I really didn’t feel like going, so I came the day of instead. Looking back, that probably didn’t make her feel too good that I bowed out on her pre-ceremony festivites, but honestly I didn’t consider her a close friend. We barely keep in contact these days, and I am not even inviting her to my wedding.

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