(Closed) Decision finally made – I'm having 6 bridesmaids! How about you?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How many bridesmaids are you having/did you have?
    None : (11 votes)
    9 %
    1 : (8 votes)
    6 %
    2 : (8 votes)
    6 %
    3 : (17 votes)
    14 %
    4 : (20 votes)
    16 %
    5 : (14 votes)
    11 %
    6 : (29 votes)
    23 %
    7 : (8 votes)
    6 %
    8 : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I was in the same boat! I have a close group of girlfriends, there are 6 of us (including me) from highschool/hometown. I also have two other good friends from high school. Then I have a really good friend from college, as well as another group of college friends (and there are 6 there including me!) And then there is FI’s sister and our mutual friend who’s wedding we were in.

    YIKES. I am blessed to know so many awesome people and call them my friends, but…

    I picked my closest friend from each category, basically. And all were totally understanding! My Maid/Matron of Honor is from my hometown group. I’ve known her since we were born (a month apart!) so to everyone else it was known she would be it! Then FI’s sister and our mutual friend, then one friend from high school and my girlfriend from college (not one of the group, this girl was in my major with me!) So 5 total 🙂 I’m also lucky not just to have that many friends, but to have very loving and understanding friends as well!!

    Post # 4
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    1606 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I want 5 but my canadian friend is a little busy – and I don’t like asking over the phone. Did everyone ask their girls face to face?

    Post # 5
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Same situation.  I could think of 8 girls.  I ended with 6. The other 2 were my cousins who I’m not close with but still wanted some sort of family since I have no sisters.  I went back and forth between no BMs or all 6.  Eventually I decided I wanted a group of girls to hang out with on that day. SO, i’ve told them not to expect to have to do much with the wedding other than buy a dress and be with me that morning.  I still haven’t chosen a Maid/Matron of Honor. I don’t think I’ll be able to. 

    Post # 6
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    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m having 4 (and a junior BM).  I originally had 6 girls in mind, but ended up not asking the other two.  I tried to pick someone I knew from different points in my life.  We were trying to keep our bridal party on the smaller side, too, so this is a pefect number.

    Post # 7
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @suburbian:  I asked 5 of my girls face to face. I really didn’t want to do it over the phone or  through a txt message.  One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man lives pretty far away so I made her a special “mini movie” on youtube asking her.  I figured since I couldn’t ask her in person it was a nice gesture to ask her in another creative way. 

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @suburbian:  Nope, all of mine were asked via the mail. My Maid/Matron of Honor got a decorated wooden box and the other girls got bunting cards.

    I’m having 5, technically, though I doubt the 5th will be able to make it. Apparently her new boss is a giant bia and immediately denied her time off request (that she made in JANUARY) because of the way she’s employed (she’s technically a contracted employee).

    Post # 9
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    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m just asking my two sisters. It was going to be too hard to pick out of my closest girlfriends and I didn’t want to hurt anybody, and I knew all my girlfriends would still be a huge part of my day. Sometimes I feel like the bridal party photos look too crowded with too many bridesmaids/groomsmen but if they are all your closest friends then it wouldn’t be a bad thing either 🙂 One other reason why I didn’t want too many bridesmaids is because I thought that having too many opinions would cause too much of a headache and I’d just heard too many bad stories about squabbling and rivalry between bridesmaids. 

    Post # 10
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @vorpalette:  That sucks so bad that your fifth bridesmaid can’t make it to your wedding…

    Post # 11
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MsAmandaAnn:  I really wanted to do this too but the girls from my different social/family circles don’t really know each other and I wanted there to be great synergy within my bridal party and for that to show in the photos, but I have heard from others who used this pattern of choosing BMs that things always worked out great because all of the girls knew different aspects of the bride so they worked together really well!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @sarg88:  and @vorpalette: I may have to start thinking out of the box to get on this girl’s timeline! lol 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I could think of half a dozen, but will probably just have two. It actually depends on how many groomsmen Fiance wants to have, so we’ll decide based on that.

    Post # 14
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    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @suburbian:  I am bracing myself to ask my older sister face-to-face to be my MoH…. Our relationship has been strained at times and there’s often been a lot of tension. We’re only one year apart and at best, we’ve gotten along comfortably enough but we were never exactly best friends… in our culture it’s really important to honour older sisters by asking them to be your MoH which kinda sucks in a way but makes it really easy to not offend any best friends when you don’t ask them to be your MoH because it’s a given that you have to ask your older sister. I honestly really do want her to be my MoH but I just know it’s going to be awkward asking her because we just are not that close especially in recent times….

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wanted 4, but added my sisters in fear of them feeling left out; I ended up with 6 (1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 5 BMs).

    Post # 16
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    1606 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @prettykittyxx:  Maybe this will be a chance for you guys to bond? Maybe tell her you are looking for a fresh start – and sit down with her to establish some adult/communication ground rules.

    No name calling, no snarkiness (lol), bride trumps in most arguments (but only till wedding day)….etc etc etc. If you guys can do this it may help you to repair a very special feindship that will be very useful in the future.

    My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor – but it was kind of a given. We work-out together, we go to church together, we take my neice to special events, we party together – some people who don’t know that we’re sisters have guessed we’re lesbians lol.

    I would literally be lost in life without her – but things weren’t always so easy. We fought day in and day out as children. If chose to do anything with any siblings I went with my brother’s and we left her home. After we matured we really did mesh well again – forgiveness is so worth it in this case. 

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