Post # 1
My friend is very active in a church that can be described as fairly liberal. Every summer the 11th and 12th graders take a week long trip to the beach. She goes as a leader. We were talking about this and she mentioned that they needed a few more leaders to attend. She basically asked if I would be interested in going as a leader. My responsibilities would be seeing over a small group of 11th and 12th grade girls and leading a brief discussion before bed. It sounds like it would be an interesting experience but I am not sure it is for me. My main concern is that the relationship between my boyfriend and I is not one that most churches would approve of. My friend is aware and seems to not think its an issue. Another issue is that I have minimal experience in this area. I have to let her know soon because planning meetings start soon and they have to have it all ironed out.
Has anyone ever experienced an opportunity like this? What was your experience like? What should I expect?
Post # 3
@Kacey23: I think that if your friend thinks it’s fine you’re probably okay. I don’t know what kind of church it is, or why you think they wouldn’t approve of your relationship but if the member thinks you’re okay and has suggested you I don’t think you have anything to worry about!
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I agree that if your friend thinks it’s okay, you’ll be fine. I attend a fairly liberal church and the only time the details of any relationship come up with church leaders is if you’re asking to get married in the church. But we have plently of people there who are in same sex relationships, living together, single parents, divorced etc..all situations that I can see some churches not being thrilled about but our church is more about accepting everyone for who they are not who you want them to be.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
I am with everyone else… If your friend is asking you, then that’s your approval. But, I would let the person in charge (youth leader I resume) know as well just to cover your bases.
I will say this: I teach middle school girls during church and have been on lot’s of retreats with them. It is the best expierence ever to help encourage the girls to live a good life. I am seriously so blessed to teach them.
The important thing is to be real with them.
The first time I went on a retreat with them I didn’t know there was a guidline book that told me what to talk about, so i just asked the girls about what they wanted to talk about. They loved it! “Cabin time” was there favorite time, (ie: the times I lead them in bible descussion) and I think it was becasue we were real and raw. I opened up to them about a lot of my personal stuggles, but also told them about how I was overcomming them. The girls new I was not perfect, but they also knew that I was striving to be perfect.
I was invited to lead a life group for a church i was attending while I was looking for a home church. I knew I didn’t want to stay at this church because I didn’t agree with a lot of the theology. However, even though i didn’t agree with the main doctrinal beliefs, they still wanted me to lead a group. So, I did for a bit, but again, I was open about who I was and what I believed. I didn’t try to pretend i was something I was not.
I would caution you that the bible says, “Not many of you should become teachers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.” The bible also says, “If anyone causes one of these little ones to stumble, it would be better for them if a large millstone were hung around their neck and they were thrown into the sea.” Mark 9:42
I think, when you are a leader, you are called not only to just teach the girls, but also live it yourself. It’s a higher calling on your life.
Also… God does not call the equipped, he equips the called.
Hope this was helpful.