(Closed) Decisions Decisions!! Please help!!

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
  • poll: Straps or no straps??
    Yes - add straps! : (8 votes)
    15 %
    No - leave the dress as is! : (45 votes)
    85 %
  • Post # 3
    914 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Sometimes straps add more heaviness to the arms than going bare. Can you post a picture of yourself so we can see what you look like?

    I have disproportionately large arms for my body and definitely never go without them being covered. That being said, I am most likely going strapless with my dress, or with the sheer straps it comes with. 

    ETA here is my dress with and without the straps:

    Post # 4
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think you’d look gorgeous, but if you are terribly self conscience about your arms, I would add straps. The last thing you want to worry about on your wedding day is things you SHOULD have done, or arm flab!

    Mind you, I don’t think anyone would notice your arms, it would be solely in your head! [If they did notice, they are probably jerks, I mean, who looks for flaws on a bride?!].

    I’m getting a shrug for piece of mind. My arms are flabby and I have a few stretch marks on them. Everyone says I don’t need a shrug, but I’m still getting one!

    Post # 5
    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Could you bring it to a seamstress and have her make “mock” straps so you can see exactly what it would look like? Go with your gut πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
    914 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @SoontoBEEmrsclarke:  Here is a pic without the veil covering them! You should ask your seamstress to make the straps removable like mine are πŸ™‚

    And here is a pic of me in anpther dress, but arms showing.

    I don’t know why I’m sending you so many pictures of my arms lol

    Post # 10
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    Post # 12
    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’d say also to see if you can see a mock up before making a decision.  I remember when I was trying on dresses, I was soooo sure that I was going to hate all strapless dresses, but when I saw the mockup sleeves that were offered, it changed my mind in a hurry.  I ended up going with a strapless dress and never looked back!  πŸ™‚

    Post # 13
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have arm issues too, but as a PP mentioned, I noticed that when straps were added it actually seemed to bring MORE attention to my arm area… go figure! I think that the dress looks loveley the way it is! Maybe look into a bolero if you really are thinking of covering them up, that way it isn’t a permenant change!

    Post # 14
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @SoontoBEEmrsclarke:  I think the dress is gorgeous as is and if you are close to the size of the model then it looks fine on you! πŸ™‚ But if you are that uncomfortable with your arms and shoulders, I would suggest getting a removable bolero that is lightweight that you can take off after the ceremony so that way you can cover up and if you ge too hot, you can remove it. πŸ™‚ I have a strapless dress too and I have issues with not so fit arms and “armpit” fat so I know how you feel! I think I am going to have a seamtress make some kind of modified shrug for the ceremony then I will probably remove it for the reception. And honestly, it really comes down to what you are most comfortable with. I agree with PP that adding straps sometimes brings more attention to your arms and your “problem” areas. I would definitely see what  seamstress suggests and see if you like her suggestions! Good luck! And beautiful dress btw. Cool

    Post # 15
    495 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I think us big girls seem to think straps hide anything. I dont think they do and I think they can just draw more attention to them… I say no straps, they are just annoying and useless. 

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