- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
I’m just wondering if anybody else has experienced or is experiencing their family telling or hinting to them that their decisions about the flowers, dress, shoes, $$ are all wrong?
I’ll give you some background and examples:
I’m 28 years old. I started saving $$ as soon as I got my first job out of college. I really don’t spend a lot of money in my everyday life. I have no debt or loans. So now, after saving for 7 years, I have a pretty good nest egg. My fiance does too so we’re paying for the wedding by ourselves, hoping that everyone can just come and enjoy themselves. I have never asked my parents for any $$ and I’m not blowing my entire life savings on this wedding either…
Any time I tell my mom about anything wedding related, like the fact that I just booked a florist, her response isn’t "great, what kinds of flowers do you like?" Her response is "how much was the estimate? Don’t spend too much money. They’re just flowers."
If I show her pictures of the jewelry I’m thinking about wearing, instead of saying "those look nice," I’ll get a "oh really? you should ask your sister what her opinion is. She’s knows art/fashion."
It seems that any wedding related decision I make, I’m either being told to stop spending $$ OR being hinted to that I don’t have a lot of fashion sense. I’m kind of hurt and actually a little insulted because my parents don’t know how much I’ve saved nor do they know how much I’m spending (or really, how much I’m not spending). I always assure them that I have a budget and that I’m sticking to the budget.
I don’t think my fashion sense is terrible. In fact, I tend to be minimalist, simple, and I’d like to think elegant. Think roses, peonies, ranunculus, some teardrop earrings, a flash of colored shoes, etc. You get my point. I guess I’m just wondering if this is something all brides’ families tell them? I feel like my parents should be more supportive…not tearing me down…