Post # 1
Regular user here with an anonymous account. I know people who make these accounts can oftentimes be frustrating, but to be honest, I feel that people can get judgey about this topic and I don’t want that associated with my regular account.
I am going to declaw my cat. I don’t want to, I don’t believe in it, I think it’s wrong, but I don’t have a choice.
We got my cat about 4 1/2 years ago when she was only 6 weeks old. She belongs to me but is really a family cat now. We all love her tremendously and have given her a great home filled with lots of love and nurturing. Basically she’s living the cat dream.
My husband and I got married this past year and moved into an apartment 5 minutes from my mom. While I would have loved to take the cat with me, my apartment is all carpet and the landlord would only allow it if we got her declawed and if we put down an extra cat deposit. At the time we weren’t even thinking about extra money for a cat deposit, so that was part of why we didn’t take her. I also didn’t want to get her declawed, so for the past 8 months, she has continued living at my mother’s house.
But she can’t live there forever. And my mother is ready to throw her out. We’re planning a move out of state soon and we are TTC starting this summer. I can’t give this cat away, I love her more than I ever thought I would love a pet, but I also can’t refuse to take her because of her claws, and my husband and mother are adamant that I don’t bring children into a home with a cat who isn’t declawed.
I just received a phone call from my mother, essentially telling me I was getting the cat declawed this December. I don’t want to hear all the reasons I can’t. I am, even though I don’t want to. So for everyone who is enraged by this decision, I am too, and I agree with everything you are saying. I need reassurance that my cat will still be the same after, that she’ll be ok and that I don’t have to worry. I also want to hear experiences about the laser removal, which is what we would go with.
Post # 3
You don’t happen to have, say, another friend that will take the cat short term? If you don’t have another choice, than do it, and I’m sure that you’ve thought off all the alternatives you can, but it is something to consider.
Post # 4
Are claw covers an option? It is worth checking.
Post # 5
@catfight: You can’t get the claw caps or anything??
Our cat is declawed, but it was done by the previous owner. Even after 10 years, it still hurts him when you touch his paws. 🙁
Post # 6
@chemfemme: Oh, that breaks my heart 🙁
Post # 7
Can someone tell me a little more about these claw covers? How they work and what the drawbacks are?
Post # 8
@catfight: you want us to tell you your cat will be ok, but as with any surgery, there are risks. I agree with the claw covers and am totally against declawing. I don’t understand what having a child has to do with declawing a cat. If you feel that you cannot trust your child with a pet or vice versa, you’ll need to get rid of one or the other.
Post # 9
I’m sorry you’re having to do that. It sounds like you genuinely don’t want to, so I can’t imagine how guilty you’re feeling.
Laser declaw is supposed to be slightly easier to recover from than traditional. It’s still a horribly painful procedure, just slightly less so. It’s also unfortunately a very routine procedure, so try not to worry too much about things going wrong.
Post # 10
@catfight: The claw covers are little plastic tips to put over your cats claws. The main drawback is that they don’t always work, and the cat will just pull them right off. It’s definitely worth a try though.
Post # 11
@catfight: Check out SoftPaws http://www.softpaws.com/ . They’re a great alternative to declawing. They remind me of fake nails. They’re glued over top of the nail. As your cats nails grow, the caps eventually fall off and you need new ones.
Post # 12
Can you and the landlord compromise on front declaw only, instead of all four feet?
Post # 13
So I just want to clarify, are you bringing the cat to live with you, and this is why she needs to be declawed, or is she staying with your mother and SHE is insisting it be declawed?
Here are my suggestions in either case:
If she’s moving in with you, talk to your landlord about it. Print out some literature on why it’s harmful, offer to show her the clawcovers which you could use as an alternative, offer to bump up your damage deposit to allay his/her fears of damage, and see if they’ll agree to the alternative.
If she’s staying with your mother: show her the same literature, and the claw covers
If you cannot find a friend/relative you trust to re-home her, and the declawing is just not an option to your landlord/mother, then a cat declawed by a vet is better than a cat euthanized at a shelter IMO.
Do everything you can to find an alternative, and if you can’t, find her the best medical care you can afford, love her, and move on from this difficult choice.
Post # 15
@FutureMrsAch: Thanks – you beat me to it!
Tell the landlord you will be fastidious about checking the claw covers’ hold, and emphasize that they GLUE on. I think a lot of people don’t know that. You might be able to convince them!
Post # 16
I tried the SoftPaws – my cat chewed them off. Maybe your cat will get over them though!