Decline Invite to Wedding

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

acg90 :  I would have plans that night. Make a dinner reservation so youre not lying haha. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sounds like she wants you to decline. That is why she keeps saying the guest list is tight. I don’t think you need to give an excuse, just say that while you are honoured to be invited, you aren’t able to attend. You can say to your colleague that you can still do the make up though.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

acg90 :  Might not have been her choice. It isn’t her wedding and the bride might have been so worried about offending you she didn’t listen to her future Mother-In-Law when she said don’t invite you.

Make plans and decline and everyone is happy.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

So weird.

“Come to this wedding I don’t want to invite you to!”

(gets invitation)

“We’re really tight on space! Hope you got your invite! Wow we have no room for anybody!”

Huh?

 

I’d decline the invite, and confirm with this woman seperately you are still willing to do her make-up as you said you would.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

She sounds really rude. I personally would decline the wedding and doing the makeup, but I get annoyed when people say one thing and do another, and it puts me in an even more awkward spot, which I feel is what she has done to you.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

The way she’s dealing with this would really bother me. Constantly reminding you that the guest list is tight and that she feels obligated to invite you is much more rude than just saying it once and being straightforward about it – possibly offering to take you out to dinner or do some other nice thing with you as a thank you later. 

Either way, I’d decline the invite. That’s what she is (so heavily) ‘hinting’ at. 

Post # 10
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1127 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

She is fishing for a decline in the first place. 

You have plans. Drinking juice and watching TV is a plan. Anything can be a plan. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

acg90 :  what a pain in the a&& I would have charged her for mu too lol 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper

That’s so ungracious.  Not to mention she is almost certainly engaging in B listing, which I also find impolite.  But if someone ever told me that they felt obligated to invite me somewhere I would absolutely decline. No excuses necessary, just say you regret you will be unable to attend and send well wishes. 

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