(Closed) Declined Ceremony, Accepted Reception? Is this strange to anyone else?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yes, a little odd, but glad you’re making the best out of it.  It’s always important for me to attend others’ wedding ceremonies and receptions, but for others making it to just the reception is just fine.  I am fine if people do that for mine too…different perceptions and I can respect that.  🙂 Glad he’s still coming to the celebration!

Post # 18
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

He obviously has some other commitment, it wouldn’t bother me at all. Be happy he’s coming at all! 


Edit: Oops didn’t see your response. Ok, that is weird. But… He is still there to celebrate!

Post # 19
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Seriously?!? He doesn’t DO weddings?!?!?!? It seems kind of rude to me!! Glad you are ok with it though! 🙂

Post # 20
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

haha wow….yeah to whoever said how on earth did he get married if he doesn’t “do” weddings? 

We actually had the opposite where a couple is attending the ceremony and not the reception.  We also have friends who are a couple who are attending another wedding on the same day as ours (my friend is actually a bridesmaid in this brunch wedding) so they are missing our ceremony but they are driving 2 hours from that wedding straight up to ours to attend our reception!  it’s like a movie, lol

Post # 21
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, I feel like that’s more than a little rude, unless he has some sort of anxiety or phobia triggered by weddings. I am sometimes tense when I feel “trapped” in a given social situation. Weddings are fine, especially since they tend to be short and happy, but funerals are panic attack central for me. So if that’s his deal I get it…but if he’s just easily bored or something, WTF?

Post # 22
1633 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I feel like that’s actually really rude, too.  I mean, his prerogative, I suppose, and I’m glad it’s not bothering you.  But really?  Since wedding ceremonies aren’t his favorite pastime, he’d rather just stand outside the building alone?  So weird.  Anyway, I’m glad it’s not upsetting you.  🙂

Post # 24
305 posts
Helper bee

it’s weird he would even make an issue out of it and especially since his wife will be sitting in there by herself.  he is probably doing it to spite his wife for whatever reason and i would thank my lucky stars i wasn’t his wife.  what a douchebag.

Post # 25
380 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry but that is so weird. He’d rather stand outside by himself than sit inside? I think it’s rude that he’s going to rock up to the reception for some free food and drinks, but can’t sit through the entire REASON for the day – your marriage and supporting you and your husband as you make this huge step? Call me crazy, but I’d be pretty pissed off.

Post # 26
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Just a note aside from the issue with the weird RSVP, you may have such a hard time getting responses because your RSVP date is really far too early. That’s 5 weeks out, and it should really be more like 3 or 4 at the most. For many people, you are asking them to make plans to early for them to actually be able to and your invitations may have gone out too early as well if your RSVP date was so early. That means people set is aside because they feel like they have plenty of time to deal with it later and then they forget. So, that said, cut them som slack as you work on your follow-ups.

Post # 27
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That is very strange, OP. My eyebrows are still recovering from the weird position that the guy’s “explanation” bent them into. It will be nice to have someone watch the grill, though.

My fiance and I went to a wedding last fall. I attended the ceremony solo and went home to pick him up, then we went to the reception. He had a hurling match earlier in the day and needed time to shower and tidy up after, so we RSVP’d one to the ceremony, 2 for the reception. My friend the bride didn’t mind at all.

Post # 28
2124 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

ahh.. this is not out of the norm. I know plenty of men who’d rather poke their eye out than watch a weddign ceremony. Im sure he’s looking forward to celebrating with you guys…but wedding ceremonies aren’t for everyone. 

Post # 30
986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are you having a religious ceremony?  Could there be a different reason caused by the content or lack of content of the service?


Post # 31
35 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

YAY date twins!!!
I had my RSVP’s set to be back on the 14th. I am wating on only one. I told her she had till the 21st and then that was it.

As for your friends husband. That is extremely strange. Doesnt do weddings, yet had his own … odd lol

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