Post # 1
dear guru bees, looking for a little advice on my table setting…
i’m doing an upscale barn wedding (think rustic romance or rustic elegance) in a new barn, with white twinkle lights and branches. definitely going for a magical vibe. the problem is, i’m doing it on a budget!
here’s where i’m having trouble.
we have GREAT food options, quite the buffet. but the caterer’s plates are AWFUL. they’re those glass leaf plates that people usually put salads on. it’s pretty much astronomical to rent/buy dishes, so here’s what i was thinking…let me know what you think or how else i can class it up economically!
WHAT’S ON THE TABLE
- all linens are white. chairs are white folding wood
- just napkins and silverware on the table. hopefully a nice fold on the napkin.
- water glasses
- lantern centerpiece with candle and wrapped branches, small fabric flowers
- table name/number
- salad pre-plated
- bread basket
- possibly a bottle of champagne with a do not open until toast note
WHAT I’M WONDERING
- with everything being white, do i need to add a table runner
- does the table look naked without dinner plates on it? how customary is it to not have the plates at the table?
- please tell me people won’t judge me for those awful plates. sigh. ha ha!
- can’t find anything in my etiquette book on should i have menus
is it going to be super gauche to not have floor-length linens? i can’t find good pix of what the regular linens look like. they are 90×90 linens on 60″ round tables, so they fall down 30″ on each side. floor length are an extra $18 per table!
- for each person
- for each table
- one at the buffet
Post # 3
1.You don’t NEED a runner. You will have an elegant look. You can HAVE a runner if you want one.
2. The table doesn’t look naked without the plates. You can ask the caterer to place the napkins where the plate would normally go. You could also use either a charger plate or something for a placemat. I love this look of using paper doilies as placecards.
3. Anyone who would judge anyone for the type of plates a caterer provides is not worth losing a moment’s peace of mind over.
4. Having or not having menus is not a point of etiquette. It is merely a personal preference. It is nice to at least have one fairly large, readable menu at the start of the buffet so people can plan their eating and not have to double back if they get to the end and decide they should have taken more salad.
5.90×90″ linens will falll down 15″ on each side, not 30. To be honest, I prefer this if I am a guest as it is easier to slide in and out without pulling the cloth with you.
If it bothers you, you coulod buy your linens for much less than their quote and re-sell them after the wedding. You could even buy them pre-owned on craigslist.
Post # 4
you don’t need runners and you don’t need to have the plates on the tables.
if you’re worried about the table looking too white, i would make sure that your centrepieces have some colour. maybe the lanterns can be black or brown or even spray painted to match your wedding colours.
you also make your favours colourful. i’m not sure what you are having but you can incorporate your colours here too. even with a coloured ribbon or something.
again, be creative with your table numbers. they don’t have to be boring white tent cards.
menus aren’t necessary but they can be cute. you can do a large one at the buffet in a large frame or just one at each table or per guest.