(Closed) Deep down how important is the "surprise" aspect of the proposal??

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope. I don’t like surprises and feel my engagement should be mutual and very private. I’ve never dreamed of being surprised. Never. He was a bit sad

To learn this but we have compromised.

I say it’s our time/moment. How you want it is ok. I feel like society has made it that must be a surprise. Wht about all us non traditional gals? It’s just not me. What can I say? I’m just

EXCITED to find HIM!!!! And eventually marry him!!! Life

Offers enough surprises. Lol

Sorry for crappy typing… On my phone.

Post # 78
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96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I could have cared less if it was a surprise. Fiance is bad at hiding things, so I just went along with it. It was still incredibly special to me and the best proposal ever!

Post # 79
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I didn’t think I would care about being surprised before I was engaged. If I thought he was taking too long eventually I would have brought it up.

But I think that because he did the whole thing by himself (the ring, the time)and it was amazing I am really glad that I never pushed the whole engagement thing because I am so proud of him and it was beautiful and SO romantic.

Plus if he had waited a few more years I feel like I would have become pushy and annoying about it. I actually hate surprises.

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wish it had been a surprise. Fiance proposed while we were in Jamaica. I knew it was coming…we were out for one of his coworker’s bday, she was a little drunk and told me he had been asking her about her ring. I tell some of my coworkers and best friend about what happened and they all say he’s going to propose during our trip. Fast forward to the actual proposal and moments after…he asks why I’m not surprised or too excited. I tell him I already knew it was coming (plus I’m not a giggly, screaming type person….very quiet). But every year I kinda expect the proposal to come….we were together a week to 7 years when he proposed.

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My so told me he put a large chunk of a downpayment on my ring for xmas and that he will probably propose between now and may. i was sooo freaking happy because sure i knew he had it, but i still didnt know when it was coming or how he is doing it right so there is still surprise! my best friend or well she is supposed to be is not happy shes actually mad at him for telling me..but really?? like he put a lot of money down on it and it was my christmas present which is totally fine with me!!! at least i know he really wants to marry me! thats all i asked for for xmas anyways. I guess my so sent her a pic of my ering and shes been a B ever since…shes already engaged, i dont see why she is being like this..i guess to each his own but im okay with knowing!!!

Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

To me, the surprise was NOT important.  I hate surprises, really…..

Post # 83
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Buzzing bee

I’m recently engaged and I will say that the only thing that was a suprise was the HOW, and the size of the diamond. I knew the setting and was about 95% sure on the date, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I loved knowing before we got engaged that we were on the same page, and I loved talking with my Fiance about it. It helped ease the waiting process those last few weeks and I got to finally just sit back and be excited about the HOW and stop stressing about the IF/WHEN.

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I hate surprises, and I hate waiting. Good combination, right? LMAO.

At this point, I don’t care how he does it. It could see it coming from a hundred miles away, and I’ll still cry and be ecstatic.

Post # 85
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59 posts
Worker bee

I want to be surprised with when and how. I want him to put some thought into it. I do know it should be coming, we agreed on it, lol.

Post # 86
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1001 posts
Bumble bee

 I do not care about the “surprise.”  I have never cared for surprises, and doubt I ever will.  I am a planner who is able to maintain my cool and improvise when things are hectic (this makes me good at my job).  However, I get the feeling the “surprise” aspect is important to him, so I suppose my hands are tied.  **sigh**

 

Post # 87
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699 posts
Busy bee

@blueberries123:  I’d  love the surprise facter, i want to be floored when he does it!!! I want to cry, laugh, jump up and down etc. i just want to completely freak out!!!!

Post # 88
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think a lot of people (like me) want the surprise because they’ve been so involved in every other aspect, that this is his chance to shine. Personally, I designed every aspect of my ring (even the one I made him return) and we have already started talking about wedding details (date, colors, etc). I’d like to be surprised because it’s the one thing I can allow myself to relax about and not feel the need to plan.

It makes for a cute story to share a remember, though there definitly isn’t any need to make it a surprise.

Post # 89
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I hate surprises.  I’m a very sneaky fox so everytime it’s almost christmas or my birthday I find out one way or another what I’m getting.  It’s now become a competion between my fiance and I to see if he can surprise me or if he can get someone else to surprise me.

Post # 90
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59 posts
Worker bee

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@VivienMarcheline:  Exactly. You end up planning everything else, all he really needs to put thought into is the proposal, so it would definitely be nice and appreciated.

Post # 91
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I want to be proposed to, now, in the living room, with the kitchen counter of our little condo full of dirty dishes, and my hair a mess. I don’t care about the way he does it, I just want to know that he wants to build something with me and protect it with a legal document so we’re not strangers before the law if something happens! 

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