(Closed) Defending oneself on the bee

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It is frustrating when people assume that if someone states an opinion that differs from their own, then they must be attacking them.

Or if someone explains something that someone else already knows, that the first person must think the second person is stupid.

It’s the challenges of a messages board – you can’t read tone.

Post # 6
Member
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think we felt just as attacked as you felt, FYI

And depending on the mod will depend on your answer. Some say take it to PMs, but then some say as long as you are respectful, you can debate in the thread

@Mrs.KMM:  I apologize. The whole not knowing tone thing is frustrating, I agree.

I know that sometimes I will reread something before posting, and then add a little point that I was being sarcastic, dramatic, sarcastic, etc. I think that if more people would add those notes (or even smiley faces) it could help determine how you are trying to come off

Post # 7
Member
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MrsSl82be:  No worries!  I know we can all get a bit heated sometimes if we are passionate about something!  I don’t hold grudges or anything! Wink

ETA: I added a smiley just for you!

Post # 8
Member
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

In general, we ask everyone on here to be respectful of each other. If a thread is getting heated, it’s perfectly reasonable to ask everyone to take a breath or step away for a moment. Also, if you have another topic you’d like to discuss, we prefer members start spin off threads rather than threadjacking the original one. Everyone has the right to defend themselves, but sometimes things end up going in circles because, let’s be honest, how often have you seen the other person step back and say “Oh ya, I was wrong, okay cool.” So at a point, this is why we have mods and hostesses who can step in and ask everyone to take a break. None of us what to see members at each other’s throats, and I’m sure none of you want to end up with high blood pressure because of WB πŸ˜‰

It sort of reminds me of this:

 

Post # 9
Member
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@bakerella:  One of my favorite internet comics.  πŸ™‚

Post # 11
Member
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@bakerella:  not related to the topic…but i love that you used an xkcd comic to make your point.  πŸ™‚

Post # 12
Hostess
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@AB Bride: I even had someone pick a fight with me only to admit later on that they didn’t actually feel the way they did but rather they were defending those that might. Really?

There are people out there who make it a point to generate drama in order to pass the time, it is unavoidable.

@bakerella:  It cannot be ignored!!!! We MUST be right all the time!!!

Post # 13
Member
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@AB Bride:  I think sometimes too, things sort of go in cycles around here. There are sensitive topics that come and go, and sometimes I feel like there are days if there is one thread that gets heated, things around here sort of get riled up and other threads start up in response, or the emotion gets carried to another topic. We have a lot of passionate members and I think it’s great that we all are a group of strong minded women, but in the same token, I think it’s good to remember that A) We need to respect each other and our various backgrounds and viewpoints, but also B) Sometimes the smartest thing to do is to walk away. A cooling off period is something you would do if you were having a heated discussion at work, or even during an argument with your SO, family member, or friend, so it’s important to try to practice that here too.

Post # 15
Member
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Treejewel19:  LOL! Ya, I get that way with my Darling Husband πŸ˜‰

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