(Closed) Defending Your Honor?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How would you feel about your SO/DH " defending your honor" in public. Is it OK to you?

    Not Cool----I do not condone yelling/shoving/confrontation in any capacity-

    Maybe----It strongly depends on the circumstances-- but I would be OK as long as no one got hurt

    Yes---I expect my SO to stick up for me no matter what


  • Post # 3
    5422 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If he did anything like that, I’d be floored.  Because that’s not his style at all.  If anything, it would have been me getting in those men’s faces and Fiance trying to pull me away.

    Post # 4
    3774 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    To me, that is part of being a good husband.  My husband is certainly not a hothead who would jump at the chance to exchange words (or blows) with someone, but in the event that I was threatened or majorly disrespected, I would hope that he would want to defend me.

    Post # 5
    1281 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @MASPA:  Same here

    Last summer, Fiance and I went to a Red Sox/Yankees game at Yankee Stadium.  We are Sox fans and had never gone to a game at the new Yankee Stadium yet so we thought it would be a blast.  Thinking I was all bad-ass, I still decided to wear a sox shirt even though we were in enemy territory and the lewd comments begun.  It was a tough situation but Fiance knew if he stood up for me, he would get attacked by Yankee fans and if I stood up for myself that it would make him look like a pansy.  


    Post # 6
    5540 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think there is a line. In the unlikely case I got cat called or something, I’m a big fan of just ignoring it. But if someone started making obvious and lewd or rude suggestions, I would be okay with DH saying something like “Shut up that is MY wife.” but I never think a fist fight solves anything. 

    Post # 7
    949 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Anything that even could get into the realm of a physical altercation, I’m against. Partly because my DH (eek, that’s new!) has martial arts training and could cause real damage, and partly because I am confident in myself about dealing with that kind of thing, and actually I have some martial arts training myself. But my training says that the best fight is one that doesn’t happen, and I am aware that if I defend myself from comments by confronting a guy, he doesn’t feel the need to stand up to me and gets embarrassed instead. I would rather deal with it myself, or mostly just ignore.

    Post # 8
    4950 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Words I’m fine with. I would want him to stand up for me, because I’d probably be too shy to do it myself. I wouldn’t want him to get into a fist fight or anything that would involve authorities, though. 

    Post # 9
    9841 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I had an ex who felt the need to “defend” me for every little thing…I’m talking a guy glancing at me “the wrong way” in a bar. It was one of the reasons I broke up with him. So no, I don’t care for my DH to get in any shouting matches or fist fights over some idiot making a snide comment. Unless I’m physically in danger I prefer to just ignore it.

    Post # 10
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If someone said something inaprropriate to me I would expect him to stick up for me.  Actually i would most likely yell something back and then he would have no choice..

    Post # 11
    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    If it was just something that was said I’d expect him to just keep walking because why the hell should we care what some stranger says? It doesn’t seem worth our time to “handle” and my honor is not so fragile that I’d be concerned about it. 

    Now, if someone put their hands on me? Yea I’d be okay with him throwing a punch 🙂

    Post # 14
    1718 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I actually like how my Fiance will defend my honor.  (He hasn’t had the chance, though.)  I’m too timid and shy to say anything but the Fiance will. 

    Post # 15
    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I know my honor would be defended at the drop of a hat. Not that my guy is violent, but he’s very protective of me and my health and well-being. It’s comforting to know that I have someone to depend on and will step in for me when I can’t defend myself physically.

    It’s kind of sexy, too, honestly. Knight in shining armor! 😉

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