(Closed) Defending Your Honor?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How would you feel about your SO/DH " defending your honor" in public. Is it OK to you?

    Not Cool----I do not condone yelling/shoving/confrontation in any capacity-

    Maybe----It strongly depends on the circumstances-- but I would be OK as long as no one got hurt

    Yes---I expect my SO to stick up for me no matter what


  • Post # 62
    1344 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Well, I guess it’s sweet, but i’m pretty quick to stick up for myself anyway, he never really needs to. I think there has been once in almost 5 years when he has needed to defend me, and that’s because I wasn’t around. No punching or shoving or anything, I think it was just a very heated argument. I think it does depend on the situation, but in yours it seems appropriate.

    Post # 63
    972 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Since he knows me Fiance would stay out of it and let me handle it unless it were something SUPER bad (physical/dangerous to me), then I have no doubt he’d defend me.  No problems with it, he’s bigger and much stronger.

    Post # 64
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

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    @CorgiTales:  “If it was just something that was said I’d expect him to just keep walking because why the hell should we care what some stranger says? It doesn’t seem worth our time to “handle” and my honor is not so fragile that I’d be concerned about it. 

    Now, if someone put their hands on me? Yea I’d be okay with him throwing a punch :)”


    For a side-comment from stangers, I’d view DH getting involved as A) stooping down to their level and B) a waste of our time.  And I honestly couldn’t care less what some stranger thinks.

    But if someone tried to physically hurt me, I’d sure as hell expect DH to step in and stop it.  But not by getting violent.

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    @crayfish:  “I don’t call it “defending my honor”. I call it “Becoming an asshat because somebody else is being an asshat”…and I find it neither attractive nor appropriate!”

    Very True.

    Post # 65
    529 posts
    Busy bee

    I know my SO would defend me physically if the need ever arose but since he is a cop it would not be a good scene for him to get into that kind of situation. I would be ok with words being exchanged but I would definitely try to defuse things if they started to get out of hand. I do love that I always feel safe when I am out and about with SO though. It is nice to know that he would  never allow anyone to hurt me.

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