(Closed) Define a "shotgun" wedding:

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

good question. i dont know either

i guess if the bride is pregnant, the dad holds a shotgun to the guy who got her that way and makes him marry her?

if so, that sounds nothing like what ur wedding is going to be like

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@SlovenePrincess:  You are correct in your definition- a shotgun wedding is when you get married because you are pregnant, the implication being that your father is “forcing” the man to marry you (as in, holding a gun to his head) because he got you pregnant). Your friend is most likely just making the joke because your engagement is 9 months and pregnancy is 9 months. Don’t take it seriously. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your friend is mistaken. A “shot gun wedding” is one where the guy has marry you because you dad motivated him by pointing a shot gun at him because he got you preganant.

I think that “these days” people confuse it with a wedding that is happening quickly… i wouldnt put much thought into.. im sure she wasnt trying to offend you. 

My Fiance and I are only having a 6month engagement and i definitely get a lot “oh are you pregnant..” it took me a while to get over being offended.. no we hav just been together for 6 years, ITS TIME!!!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

shotgun wedding.. is where the couple is ONLY getting married because of a pregnancy and where the father of the bride is ‘forcing’ the groom to do it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

yupp no need to echo the PPs cos that’s what the definition is. I *used* to think it meant a quick engagement for some reason, but nope. She’s just talkin out her ass.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

SHotgun wedding = a couple getting married who otherwise would not be due to circumstances like pregnancy and a conservative family who would not accept them not getting married.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SlovenePrincess:  9 months is plenty of time. i was in a wedding last year that had a 6-month lead-up, and a dear friend of mine got engaged last week and set a date in early August. if you can work out the planning fast enough, more power to you. it’s none of no one else’s business.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@SlovenePrincess:  Your friend has no idea what she’s talking about…

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

fwiw… we had a 7 month engagement… people thought it was because of one of two reasons 1)I was pregnant or 2)catholic guilt/or actually a virgin and wants to get laid

None of the reasons above, I just didn’t want to wait any longer and it fit the mandatory time frame the church required (6+ months of engagement)

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

No, it’s not a shotgun wedding.

IMO this means that one party (specifically the groom) doesn’t want to get married but is feeling forced into it (e.g., because of a pregnancy, but could be for other reasons). It’s not a flattering term, and I’d be offended in your place as well.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was engaged for exactly 9 months as well, and this was a favourite joke.  I think just because you hear “nine months”, you think “pregnancy”. 

FWIW, mine was a “regular” 100 person wedding and 9 months was plenty of time.  We just wanted to get married in the summer and didn’t want to wait 21 months for it to roll around again.

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