(Closed) Define waiting

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I define the waiting period as “when you realized that he was the one you wanted a future with up until the time he finally realized it and put a ring on it” LOL…I have been with my SO for 5 1/2 years, and have been waiting  for about, 5 years LOL.  I’ve been “impatiently waiting” about a 3 1/2 though 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For me, “waiting” began when we officially began ring shopping.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Choosgirl:  I think it’s a bit different for everyone. For me it’s a bit complicated – I am definitely waiting for a proposal and eager to get married, but my bf’s divorce isn’t finalized yet so I realize it can’t happen until that is done. This is through no fault of his own.. he is doing whatever he can to speed things along, but his wife keeps taking advantage of his generosity and has been stalling for the last almost 2 years.. but that’s another thread.

So really I think it’s when someone feels like they’re ready to get married, but for whatever reason it isn’t happening. Like if you’ve been dating for X amount of time, you are ready to marry, but the guy isn’t yet proposing for X reason.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

For me, I feel like “waiting” starts after both parties have expressed in no uncertain terms that they want to spend the rest of their lives with each other and there’s some sort of action plan or timeline. For me that was after he asked my dad for his blessing and we went ring shopping. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I considered myself waiting as soon as I felt we were both on the same page about our future together.  We had had the marriage talk and would openly talk about our future together “when we have kids”, “when we’re married”, “when we’re elderly..” (LOL) but we weren’t engaged yet.  That’s when I went into “waiting” mode.  When he finally proposed we were together about 5 years and I’d say I was actively waiting for about 2 years. 

ETA: we were both finishing our doctorates during the waiting period which is why it took so long for him to propose once we decided marriage is where we were headed.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@inky_1:  This.  I guess we’ve known pretty much almost a few weeks after we got together, but for me I considered myself officially waiting when he took me to a jewelry store!  Haha. 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I considered “waiting” to be when I knew I wanted to marry this man.

However, I would add “hurry the F* up” to the stages to describe that point where you and he have clearly decided that you want to get married and you just want him to hurry the F* up right now. ;P

So I waited for about 1 1/2 years and wanted him to hurry the F* up for about 1 year.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I say waiting is when we officially went ring shopping as well.. we have always talked about marriage but ring shopping kinda made me waiting for it…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Although we’d known for a looong time that we were going to get married (and I, in all my OCD glory, instantly started looking at rings, dresses, and colors online), I didn’t feel like I was “waiting” until he asked my dad, bought the ring, and started dropping hints about the proposal. I’m going out of my MIND now that I know it’s going to be any day now!!!!

Post # 13
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Newbee

I starting “waiting” when I realised I wanted to marry my bf. However, unlike a lot of bees on here my bf hasn’t told me that he has any plans to propose, and we don’t have a timeline due to it making bf feel pressured/uncomfortable x

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Been with my bf for almost 2 1/2 yrs. Considered myself waiting the last 8 months. Around January is when I realized he was it and I wanted to be with him forever and starting thinking about being proposed to

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d say I’ve been “waiting” since we moved in together, around the 2.5 yr mark. We’ve been together now for almost 6 yrs, and I’m definitely in the “impatiently waiting, want to pull my hair out” phase  Wink

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Waiting for me has been since he said I will marry you .. and started talking about timelines. I think a difinitive time was after I graduated university… I knew I needed to do that before he would propose. 

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