(Closed) Definitely thought I would have been engaged by now :(

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
205 posts
Helper bee

Have you and your SO talked about the timeline? I think you need to have a conversation with him, you obviously feel strongly about getting engaged/married soon and it sounds like he’s doing his best to make it happen by saving up for a ring, but if you’re not happy with how slowly it’s going, you need to tell him that. That ring looks like it would cost more than $450 and it could be a while before he’s able to purchase it – are you willing to wait patiently?

Post # 5
205 posts
Helper bee

@wmk6:  It sounds like he’s pretty determined then, which is good because you know it’s coming, but bad because you know he’s okay with taking his time. I’d say if you know for sure the waiting is going to put strain on your relationship you need to sit him down and have a serious talk about your expectations.

Post # 6
30 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had sorta the same thing with my Fiance.. He kept telling me it was going to happen soon and for me to quit worrying… He wanted me to be surprised too so he wanted me to stop askig and expecting it… I think youbshould just calm down and I bet it will happen before you know it! :)know it it’s so hard to wait though! 

Post # 7
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@wmk6:  I think it’s great that he wants it to be a surprise, as most guys do, and this is probably the hardest thing for us women. However, I also think it’s fair for you to ask for a general timeline, like say by the end of the year or something. I would tell him that you understand his need for this to be a surprise, but because of your goals and where you are at this point in your life, you’d like to know if it’s within a year or two or what. It’s not exactly after 6 years to keep you waiting indefinitely. 

By the way, congrats on your graduation!!

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