Post # 1
I am not dissapointed about being pregnant at all and it’s so early, just four weeks today so I don’t want to jinx it with anything less than happy thoughts. However, I feel guilty that I can’t stop kind of wishing that it took another month to conceive. I didn’t think it would happen right away, but I found out today that I am pregnant and… exactly two years ago today I found out I was pregnant with my daughter and my due date is literally the day after my daughter turns two. What are the chances right?!?
I’m already feeling guilty about likely needing to have her party early and that both kids will grow up having to share the same birthday month. Any positive stories or encouragement about having kids two years apart and/or shared birthdays would be really appreciated.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
My brother (3 years younger) has a birthday 14 days after mine and my sister (8 years younger) has a birthday 15 days after him. To boot, our dad has a birthday 7 days before mine. It has never been a problem and we all enjoy this time of year actually! 🙂
Post # 3
My daughter was born on the SAME DAY as my first son, 4 years later. Honestly, he was young enough when she was born that we celebrated early and he didn’t really notice. After that, he thought it was really cool that he had a connection to a sibling that way, and we often held their parties together. For example, we would take them to an indoor recreation place with pizza, and each of them could hang out with their friends and not really interact with the other group. Likewise with a bowling or swim party. Having their parties on the same day has actually worked out to be really convenient, and at 2 years old, your Dear Daughter won’t even notice if you celebrate the birthday on a different day when the new baby comes.
So two of my three children were born in April, and they argue that people born in April are great, while my other child and Darling Husband were both born in August, so they argue people born in August are great. It is a fun thing to share your birthday month with someone, IMO. I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.
Post # 4
My mum shared a birthday with her sister who was 11years older. She hated it but mostly because people remembered Margaret’s birthday but not hers.
Now she hates it because her sister passed away and it’s a day she always thinks of her.
I think if you make a fuss of both and give both their spotlight it would be ok
Post # 5
My little brother was born on the evening of my 8th birthday. I was super excited for him to be born, but I was kind of mad that it was on “my” day. My parents missed my birthday obviously, but I got over it. They had special presents for me and my other brother to open when our brother was born, so we were excited for that. (Your 2 year old probably won’t care or even notice, but it wouldn’t hurt I guess) The next year, in order to “make up for it” and make me feel special, my parents left my baby brother with my grandparents and took us older kids to a hotel and amusement park for the weekend to celebrate my birthday. I was sort of surprised they left the baby on his first bday, but obviously he didn’t care, and it had the intended effect on me.
Growing up, I did get sort of annoyed about sharing our family birthday parties with him. My parents would let him pick our birthday party “theme” because he was younger, so I would often have power rangers birthday cakes and such. (I would probably do this differently if I was them, and have two cakes or alternate or something.) Otherwise, it wasn’t that big of a deal. I would still get to have a sleepover party or whatever with my friends that was decorated however I wanted.
As adults, I think it is great that we share a birthday. We never forget eachothers birthdays. We enjoy getting together to celebrate. My brother surprised me a couple years ago by driving from out of state to celebrate with me. It was a wonderful birthday present.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2015 - Swaneset Bay Resort & Country Club
My younger brother is 3 years younger than me and his birthday is two days later. Yes with family we shared birthdays as it was more convenient for them but we always had our own parties with friends. It’s not something to feel guilty about. As adults it doesn’t effect us at all!
Post # 7
stephanie091512 : echomomm : pearlrose : Twizbe : Cassidylouise : Thank you ladies! I appreciate it. My takeaway is…. To let go of the Mom guilt, remember that my little won’t notice if we bump up her party next year and every year after make sure to allow them to be individuals and have their own special time. 😁
Post # 8
My little sister had the same due date as my little brother, but she came a week early, and my little brother is born 12 days before me. Honestly we always felt bad for my other brother whose birthday is 6 months away from the rest of us, because we loved “birthday season” growing up. We always had our own parties, and my mom always had a family party and a friends party for each of us. It was like 3 straight weeks of cake and parties. It never occured to us that it could be a bad thing. I think its all about your attitude and how you handle it and spin it to your kids.