Delay wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 16
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1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We got engaged after a very long time together in 2014, and had hoped for a “short” engagement of just a year to be married in 2015.  But after several car repairs, and home repairs, we felt better pushing it back to 2016, one more year, to allow us time to save and plan.  Before we made the decision to wait, I stressed and worried horribly, crying at work, because everything that broke was one more pile of cash out of the wedding budget.  Moving it to 2016 was a good call – we were able to save, actually got a promotion of sorts right before we left to get married, and all in all while it was still stressful and a big thing to go do, it worked out much better than had we forced it at a time when it just was not meant to happen.

As long as you know what you want, and are okay waiting a little longer, it should actually help in the long run 🙂

Otherwise, you’d have to scale back and maybe even elope if you just want to get it done.  

Post # 19
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7075 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

newbeengaged :  Only you can say what is best for you. I certainly wouldn’t book vendors now with no job. It’s too uncertain. Having a job lined up isn’t the same as actually having a job that is earning you money. Things could change between now and then.

If the wedding of your dreams is really important to you, delay until you can afford it. I loved my wedding, but I can honestly say that 4.5 years later literally none of the things you worry about at the time are important….which is a hard thing to understand when you’re in the emotional aspect of planning a wedding.

The only reason we had our big expensive wedding is because we already had a house, cars, etc. I would not have gone that route had we been just starting out with no money in the bank.

Post # 21
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7371 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Slow and steady wins everytime, in life and in weddings. Good luck. 

Post # 22
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1261 posts
Bumble bee

If it helps, we’re getting married in March 2018 and we’ve already paid 10% of the venue cost to secure the date, plus we’ll pay an additional 15% in March 2017 as a deposit, then the full balance is due I think 3 months before.

I’d wait, in your position.

Post # 23
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I think that you should talk to your fiancé. At the end of the day it is about the two of you. No matter what you do, do it for you. I was having a huge wedding but people started acting funny when it came time for them to buy their dresses and there were other problems. So we decided we are going to the court house and using the money we have to have a fabulous reception. It may not be what his parents want but they aren’t paying for anything. We are happy with our decision and still plan to have our The Great Gatsby theme. It will be Gorgeous!!! 

Post # 24
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

If you think about it March-April 2018 isn’t that far away. You are only waiting a year. If you look at it that way or 3 months from Dec. 2017. So pushing it out shouldnt be that bad.  It gives you more time to plan. Like one of the other brides mentioned it gives you time to save and time to really plan and looking into vendors to determine which ones you really want. You may have find even better vendors by waiting a little longer or those that you really want may be available.  You may be able to lock in some vendors later this year and put a little money down and then the rest at a later date if  you know for sure that is what you want.  You could go with the church for your ceremony and choose a different venue for the reception if you decide to get married in December 2017. Talk to your fiance’ to see which option works best for you guys.

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’d say wait as well. We took 18 months and we have no regrets as it gave us time to save and plan.  You’ll have plenty of time to perfect all the small things too 🙂 time flies when you get into the swing of planning! Good luck!!

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