Post # 1
I’m kind of frustrated with my boyfriend. For us, things were love at first sight. Within a month of dating, we said we loved each other and moved in together. We are both in our early thirties, professionals, and have dogs. In the fall of 2019 we discussed getting engaged and then in December, he bought an engagement ring and hid it in the house (I did kinda find it tho oO). We were planning to go away in April but our plans got postponed due to Covid-19. He said he was planning to propose then. It’s now almost July and the borders are likely not opening up soon. I just feel so anxious about this. For some reason, in my head, I keep thinking he doesn’t care. Even though he is loving and supportive plus we’ve discussed that we are getting married next year. I have expressed myself to him about once a month or once every other month. How I feel like this is something that isn’t a priority for him since he hasn’t made a new plan or proposed. He just says he doesn’t understand the difference between being together before or after. To his credit it has not yet been a year. Further to his credit, we are both very liberal and not traditional so it wouldn’t be weird to be together for a long time before getting engaged. However that does not change my feelings of frustration and anxiety. Has anyone been in a similar situation or has any wisdom to share? Thank you! ^_^
Post # 2
Getting engaged after less than a year of dating is very quick – I really wouldn’t worry. Much more than a year at your age and yes, I think you would be right to raise questions, but for now, it’s still early days.
Post # 3
At your ages I would slow your roll, it hasn’t even been a year! And you moved in after a month of dating so I would stop rushing things and really get to know each other.
Slow down and just enjoy the relationship. What’s wrong with getting engaged next year?
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2020 - Colorado
I was with my husband 6 years before we got engaged. It sounds like he is totally on board since he has the ring and had plans to propose that got canceled. I wouldn’t worry at all. It’s coming! Don’t forget to enjoy life together right now while you are waiting for the next step. ☺️
Post # 5
thank you for the above! I agree that I shouldn’t “worry” especially since it hasn’t yet been a year. Our first anniversary will be this August. I just don’t know why I get this anxious feeling that it hasn’t yet happened even though I know logically everything is fine. Thank you again!
Post # 8
He already has the ring but it seems like COVID pushed the timeline back. I wouldn’t worry. Your proposal is near #patience
Post # 9
I know. I do not know where my frustration is coming from really. Thank you for your supportive words 🙂
Post # 10
@pumpkin56: Like the other previous posters have said, It clearly seems like he’s going to propose! He wouldnt have bought the ring otherwise. I think he just wants to make the proposal “perfect” and maybe he doesnt think he can because everythings closed at the moment.
Post # 12
I get it! My engagement was also delayed. Even though I know everything is ok and on track, I was still feeling super anxious about having to wait. During our conversations he spilled the beans and let me know when and where he planned to propose, but the trip wasn’t possible anymore because of COVID. Well, now the trip is back on because the place is back open. We leave in 2 days. I believe my SO is now planning something different since I know the original plan and he really wanted it to be a “surprise”. Now I am wishing I didnt know the original plan, because had I not known I think he would be proposing this weekend. However, I’m glad I still talked to him about my anxious feelings. It’s always better to communicate but don’t push too hard for too many details like I did.. I wouldn’t worry too much because he’s clearly going to propose if he has the ring. Just give it some time. Try to concentrate on you and what makes you happy. Let him figure out how to woo you.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
He shouldn’t propose till August anyway. DH and I decided you need to know each other for all 4 seasons first. So he proposed on our one year dating anniversary! Perfect timing for us
Post # 14
Agree with PP: You’ve been together less than a year, he has a ring… it seems like things are ahead of schedule.
Post # 15
Thank you for sharing your experience and I completely understand it – clearly. I hope you have an amazing trip! He and I can’t go anywhere until mandated quarantine post-travel is over as we both work in healthcare and cannot isolate for 14 days.
Once again thank you! I hope you have amazing times and make beautiful memories!! <3