Post # 1
We took a good look at our budget recently and realized, unless some miracle happens, we’re not going to be able to afford to do our honeymoon right away. While I’m slowly getting used to the idea, I’m also devasted. I really really wanted to do our honeymoon right away. (We’d planned to do a week in Hawaii.) All I ever hear about is how fun it is, how important it is to have that time away right after completing the stress of the wedding planning, etc. What we’re considering now is doing some sort of mini-moon nearby (hell, some people come here for their honeymoons! I guess we could, too?) and then saving up for a bigger, better trip later. At the same time, it seems like it just wont’ be the same.
For delayed honeymooners- was it a huge dissapointment to you to have to wait? Did you do a minimoon? How long did you wait until you did your big trip? (We’re considering maybe waiting and celebrating our 1year anniversary that way?) Did doing it later still feel honeymoon-ish, or was it just a nice vacation?
Post # 3
We didn’t really go on a honeymoon. We went on our first trip together in May (almost a year after the wedding). It was a bit sad but we knew we didn’t have the time or money to do it. I don’t really see how a honeymoon is really different than a vacation though.
Post # 4
We had to delay ours due to my vacation time, I don’t have any until the summer, so we went on a mini-moon, which was really nice. I def recommend you do that so that you can get away and just enjoy one another. Our delayed honeymoon was still very nice, we actually just got back from Hawaii (Maui and Kauai). So we took ours 3 1/2 months later. I think in a way it was nice for us to recapture all of our wedding memories and have some romantic time, so it wasn’t just a trip, it still felt like a celebration.
Post # 5
We’ve had a lot of clients delay their honeymoon due to work, school, finances, etc. I can tell you that more than one of these couples said that they were so glad that they delayed it, and it gave them something else to look forward to after the wedding.
Do you have a honeymoon registry? This may help with the honeymoon expenses as well. You just have to keep in mind that it typically doesn’t see a lot of action until shortly before your wedding. We had a bride last year who had a guest put $1500 in her registry on her wedding day!
Best of luck to you!
Post # 6
I’ll be starting grad school about 2 days after our wedding, so we won’t have time for a honeymoon or even a minimoon. We’ll likely take our honeymoon over winter break. I’m not really disappointed because we’ll be doing it eventually. Plus, this gives us more time to plan and hunt for good deals on travel.
Post # 7
Thanks for the feedback , all. It is encouraging to hear that even a delayed honeymoon can still be special. (Verosara I love that you say it was still even like an extension of your wedding celebration. How nice!)
Bliss- we considered doing a honemoon registry. However, in order for the honeymoon to happen we’d need to rely almost completely on whatever gifts we got. If we come up short, then we can’t go or will have to delay it and that just seems awkward for the people who contributed. By waiting we can continue to save after the wedding, and then it also opens up our options for other registries.
Post # 8
Actually, no…a delayed honeymoon is what has gotten me through the first 7 months of marriage. My situation is a bit different beings my DH and I are in a LDM, so I REALLY needed the honeymoon to look forward too (BTW leave in under 100 days!!!). Looking back, I can see how much more we’ll enjoy our honeymoon by waiting rather than going right away. I was SOOOO stressed and busy and exhausted leading up to the wedding that I literally wanted to do nothing for several days (weeks if I could have gotten away with it). We did do a mini-moon in the city that I live in which ended up being fantastic!
As for the will it feel like a honeymoon or a vacation? Well, we specifically planned our honeymoon to feel like a honeymoon. Both of us are typically adventurous and always have to be going 90 mph and never resting on a vacation….so, we booked a week at an all-inclusive resort, which we’re hoping will force us to slow down and enjoy eachother and the relaxing feel of the resort…so for us, that will definitely feel honeymoonish and not vacation.
And another good thing about waiting, we’re able to afford WAY MORE of a honeymoon now than when we got married, so that’s a major bonus!!!