- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2015
So I’m pretty new around here, but I’ve been taking some notes from you lovely bees and it’s been helping me get my head in order.
I thought a proposal was coming pretty soon – my SO and i have picked out a ring together, and it had arrived and was hidden in the flat (he didn’t know I knew it was there!). Anywho, long story short, we got into a fight/discussion over last weekend (and it really did take the whole weekend) and involved him throwing the ring in the bag at me and telling me to do what I liked with it, then apologising to me, then saying ‘why don’t you just put it on’ and ‘I still do want to marry you’ and all this stuff, but I refused to put it on then as it wasn’t a real proposal, more of a throwaway comment.
So the next day we’re talking through lots of stuff, and he tells me that the engagement would be delayed until he felt comfortable again, and he was planning on taking the ring back to the shop. After his comments the day before I was pretty shocked and quite heart-broken at this, and told him so. He said he was sorry, and was wrong to have suggested I put the ring on.
He then pretty much begged me to let him tell me how he was planning on proposing, even though that wouldn’t happen now. Apparently (in his words) it was original and awesome, because it was going to be at a one off event. Why would I have wanted to know how amazing it was after he has said it won’t happen?!
I’ve been pretty upset this week, but am getting through it, and we are talking properly and openly again, but I’m really not sure what to make of it all. I told him I didn’t want to see the ring (as he had left the bag on the side after the fight) and put it in a cupboard, and showed him where it was for when he wanted to take it back. I checked this morning and the ring is still in there. Do you think he is going to take it back or not? I’m so confused! Any help would be greatly appreciated
p.s. sorry about the rant that this post ended up being!