Post # 1
FI and I keep wavering on whether or not we should go on a honeymoon after our wedding this coming August. The situation is that when we got engaged we were given a large chunk of cash from my parents, and we’re allowed to do what we want with it–wedding fund, debt fund, honeymoon fund, house fund, they don’t care. At the time, we knew we were being invited to a destination wedding in February 2015, so we thought we would delay the honeymoon until then and instead do a small “mini-moon” to somewhere more local… but everything we’ve tried to book has fallen through. We’ve been considering doing a short last-minute all inclusive trip, but that may still run us $1000 a person, which isn’t a bad price but is still $2k that we could save for better use, like a house downpayment, especially considering we’ll be in Hawaii in February. Because of all that, we’re leaning more and more towards staying home.
What I’m worried about though is that I really don’t want the week after the wedding to just be… you know, sitting around at home. To compensate, I’ve tried looking around for a few experiences that we could do while still staying local and keeping the price down, and I’ve got a few things–my wedding gift to FI is a day-trip to a fossil dig, because that’s always been a dream of his, and I thought if I tagged along that could be a fun day ($100 each, so $200). Then I thought we could do a day’s hike out at a national park that we’ve always wanted to go to, which would probably around $30 gas. We could also book a room and a private brunch at a fancy local hotel for a bit more relaxation for $200. Then, if we still feel like “not being home,” we could always go out to my parents’ cabin for a few days.
Even with all of this planned, though, I still feel like we’re just going to be… “back home” instead of having a great vacation experience together. We’ve never travelled anywhere together by air as it just hasn’t been an option (we have done some long road trips) and I guess I’m feeling let down that we won’t get that opportunity just yet. But, when I try to talk to myself logically about it, I know that we’ll be going to Hawaii in February and it makes sense to save our funds right now for more important things. At the same time, though, I worry that it won’t be as special as if we went away from home.
Any advice or how to make a local honeymoon more special? ANyone want to talk some sense into me?
Post # 2
MrsRevolutionize: honestly, staying home and doing various activities can all add up to a large amount of money. Can you afford a trip away? Is it ‘I can afford it but I feel I should spend it on something sensible’ Or is it ‘I really cannot afford a trip away’ february is a loooong time away to wait for a trip. But I live somewhere with pretty minging weather so I need to get some sun regularly! if you can afford it, I say go somewhere for 4 nights, I don’t know where you are so I can’t really suggest anything. But I spend my money on travel, saving throughout the year to enable us to go away 3-4 times a year.
Post # 3
Is there somewhere you could go that’s within close driving distance that may not feel like home? Maybe you could get a hotel in your city (or elsewhere) that’s nice in atmosphere (maybe a spa) but also has a pool/waterslide. Then you could spend some time relaxing by the pool, pretending you’re somewhere tropical. You could order room service and eat at the hotel – make it romantic with candles, music, chocolate. Or you could go out to a fancy restaurant nearby, that you haven’t eaten at before.
I would spend a few days in a hotel for sure, rather than just a single night.
ETA: The cost of that may add up, but it should end up being cheaper than $2000 which you’d spend at an all inclusive.
Post # 4
Nothing after the wedding will feel like it did before. You’ll be married! Even if you don’t go anywhere, it’ll feel different, in a really amazing way that I can’t describe.
Why don’t you plan a little camping trip for the fossil dig? If you have all the gear, it really won’t cost much (or borrow!). Or go to your parents’ cabin! I would definitely take advantage of that.
Post # 5
We went to a place about 2 hours away from our city and stayed for 2 nights. We went to Medieval Times one of the nights, just to have fun after the stress of the wedding! The next night we went out for a nice dinner. We just hung out during the day, went to the shops around our hotel, relaxed at the pool at the hotel. It was nice.
Post # 6
i don’t know where you live but try groupon. they have many little getaways that are inexpensive.
also, if there a city you want to visit, use airbnb to find a place to stay and then explore the new city. it doesn’t have to be expensive at all.
Post # 7
MrsRevolutionize: Because I dont know where you are, I cant make any real suggestions but if you live close to FL, how about a 3/4 day cruise to the bahamas. The ships always have specials and last minute trips on Carnival are now under $300. You can also snag a really good rate on living social (currently has an 3 day all inclusive Dominican Republic resort for $240 (for 2 people) not including flight) or groupon. You just have to bargain hunt! Where are you regionally?
Post # 8
We won’t be going on a honeymoon after our wedding or we certainly don’t plan to as yet due to health reasons. We can travel but it is a lot of planning and hard work on my part. We are hoping to go somewhere after my FI’s transplant which will alleviate 99% of the issues we would have travelling now. My ex has offered to have my son from the evening of our wedding day and for the week after, we hoping to marry in the school holidays to make these achievable.
What we are planning to do is have a week of dating, doing the things we did when we first met, things we simply don’t get to do all that often.
Post # 9
Thanks, everyone, for the suggestions!
mrsaxachef: We’re from the prairies in Canada, which means that simply getting to a coast is a $500 flight, hahah. I’ve been trying to find vacation deals on Canadian online sites, but still, the cheapest we’ve found is $1000 a person all inclusive.