Delicate ring problems! Advice

posted 9 months ago in Rings
Post # 16
235 posts
Helper bee

annabananabee :  “But I also believe the things we love should actually be seen and used instead of hidden away for protection, so I’m trying to get away from my earlier mentality. I personally would have a hard time with something like an engagement ring spending most of its life tucked away.  A delicate ring brought out for special occasions maybe (like I have a ruby ring I wear when dressed up for special events).”


yes yes yes!!!! I love this. We spend so much money on jewelry, we shouldn’t have to worry about it constantly. We should be able to enjoy it fully. Really trying to get into this mindset of wearing my rings more often because I enjoy them and they don’t need to just sit in a box like at a museum. Thank you for this reminder! ❤️

Post # 17
527 posts
Busy bee

zzar45 :  Rose gold is actually stronger than both white gold and yellow gold. The copper used to add the pink color increases the strength of the metal which makes rose gold more durable.

Post # 18
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

j_bishae :  Yes, I came here to say that as well.


My ering also has a pretty thin band, 1 mm mark.. But the basket is quite different than yours and more secure. I guess you could get it into a cathedral setting. 

Post # 19
5948 posts
Bee Keeper

zzar45 :  Your ring is beautiful!

I can’t speak to whether it’s “too thin” overall. I think that’s something that only you can decide, with advice from your jeweler. In the end, I think you have to consider how willing you are to take a chance on something happening to your ring that might cause you to lose stones from the band. In this case, your ring actually held up pretty well. At least, I think so. It must have caught on the clothing of the person who bumped into you and, perhaps, got a larger wrench than you thought in the heat of the moment. But the head did its job. It bent and did not break. And it kept the stone secure.

My engagement ring is pretty old (because I am an “old lady” — ha, ha!). I’ve had it for about 28 years. I wore it nonstop, 24/7 for about 6 years. I did all the things you’re not supposed to do while wearing an engagement ring. After that, it has had occasional wear for a week or two at a time. My ring is a much different design than yours. It is a 5 stone with a plain band. My band is about 3mm on the side at its widest and it tapers down to just over 1mm at the bottom, where it is thinnest. The metal in the band at the bottom has warped over years of wear. It’s not noticeable, but it is out of round. My jeweler told me this was natural for a ring that is worn a lot.

Post # 20
96 posts
Worker bee

zzar45 :  Hi! I ran into a similar problem as you! My original setting, becuase I love dainty jewelry had a 1.5 mm band. After about a week of wearing it, I reset it into a band that was 1.8 mm (which still looks very dainty!!) I think warping will be a problem regardless of tht type of metal. 

Like I said, I love the look of danity jewelry but I have definitely warped 18k yg rings that are anywhere between 1 – 1.5 mm from daily wear and I don’t lift heavy objects or wear my ring to the gym. If you plan to wear it every day, I would advise resetting it. You’re e-ring is beautiful and it would suck to have it warp and/or have stones fall out of the band because the band is too thin. Also, if your jeweler is telling you that its too thin, it probably is. I had one jeweler tell me that it would be fine no matter how thin the band was (needless to say I went with someone else). 

Love the idea of changing the setting and using the original as a backup ring!  


Post # 22
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I just wanted to add since you don’t love the cathedral setting so much… my ring is cathedral but the side looks really similar to your ring. And maybe your wedding band would cover the cathedral when you look at it anyways? Or maybe a basket would be sturdier? Idk just trying to give you ideas! ☺️ Good luck! I have a new wedding band with stones and it sits higher than the one pictured  

Post # 23
3907 posts
Honey bee

It’s definitely too thin and that’s why it bent. There’s not enough for the head to be anchored to. The rose gold had anything to do with it. I’ve seen thin platinum bands warp too. And rose gold is actually more durable than white gold due to the copper. 

Post # 25
320 posts
Helper bee

Rose gold is the most durable gold alloy, so that isn’t the issue. It’s how the ring is designed that’s the issue. I agree with previous posts, I think you have a few options: widening the band, turning it into a cathedral setting, or soldering your wedding band to it to add structural integrity. If you love the look of it, don’t change it! Solder your wedding band, and you could even wear another band on the other side for added protection.

Post # 26
65 posts
Worker bee



I have a similar style. Mine is 1.8mm wide, with a slight cathedral style setting. It feels very secure. 

(My hands look super dark in the bottom pic because I was in the shade!)

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