(Closed) Delinquent Groomsman!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, how frustrating!  I hate feeling like I’m herding cats.  Or a mother to people my own age!  I think someone needs to tell him he needs to nut up and take care of the obligations he agreed to when he agreed to be a groomsmen, and unfortunately for your FI, I think it needs to come from him.  He needs to tell him to pull it together!  Good luck!

Post # 4
Member
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think its a guy thing!

When FH and I were together about a year a good friend of his asked hi to be in the wedding. I told FH he needed to think about it 1st because a lot goes into being in a wedding. Well FH called his friend A WEEK BEFORE THE WEDDING to tell him he wasnt going to be able to be in it! And FH has been invited to about 5 wedding since and has NEVER RSVP’d.

It makes me sooo mad! Lucky for me they are HIS friends he needs to deal with. And is also another reason why we are not having a bridal party and he isnt inviting many people

Post # 5
Member
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had a GM who never sent in his RSVP card or sent his tux measurements. The RSVP card didn’t bother me since I knew the name of his date already and we didnt’ need a meal choice, but the tux situation was very stressful. After several calls, emails, etc. from both my husband and the tux shop, we FINALLY got him to merely give his suit size which was as close as we could get. This was 2 days before the wedding, mind you. The tux actually did not end up fitting him at all, the pants were way too short and he had to go to a dry cleaners the day of our wedding and have them let out the tux pants.

Some people..

Post # 7
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837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You know he’s going to be there so put him down as yes.  Yes, he’s being an ass not replying, but seriously? Don’t give yourself more stress than you need.  Call his wife and ask what they want to eat.  If you still don’t get a reply, put them down for whatever and if they don’t like it too bad.  As for the tux thing, have your FI tell him that he has to do it by XXX date or else there will be a fee.  If he still doesn’t do it…. well I guess you’re out a groomsman? lol  good luck!

Post # 8
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612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just call the wife and ask her what they want to eat and tell her her hubby has yet to get fitted and you would appreciate her helping in pushing him to the tux place.  Good luck!!!

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