Don’t be shy about what you want. This is your experience and really only needs to be shared with your significant other. You won’t get those first minutes with Darling Husband and your baby back, so make sure that people are aware of your wishes. Let your nurse know as well, so no stray gets get through before you are ready.
Also, I would anticipate wanting less people in the room with you and a good chunk of alone time. You never know if things will change in that moment from what you think now, and it’s easier to invite people in than to kick them out. I know a few people who were really stressed out by who was in the room at different points in time.
I intended for my mom and Darling Husband to be with me during labor and delivery. My dad came out with my mom, but wasn’t there the whole time and was not in with me during late labor or delivery. I was induced on a Monday and gave birth at 6am Tuesday. We told my in-laws not to come, since they work and have a farm, and my Father-In-Law had hip surgery and can’t sit/walk/stand for very long. They ignored us and came at noon on Monday and stayed the entire time, despite my Father-In-Law being in pain. They didn’t bother me when I was in later labor, but after the fact I found out that my Mother-In-Law was sneaking around trying to see us and hear what was going on while I was in the tub room and then back in my room getting closer to pushing. The nurses had to keep yelling at her and making her go back to the waiting room. After delivery, my mom took a few pictures of our son and went to the waiting room to show them and my dad. No one came in until after I was stitched/cleaned up and sitting in bed, but then they all flooded in before I was ready. Thankfully they didn’t stay long (in laws left to go to work, my parents went to our house to sleep), so after a while we were alone again.
My Mother-In-Law made some pretty direct comments to my SIL about not being in the room when my mom was going to be, and a few more subtle comments to me. I stood my ground just reiterated what my plan was (just my mom and Darling Husband there with me). I felt a little guilty, but ultimately it’s what I want. I love my Mother-In-Law, but she cannot sit still and she is high strung, and I knew she would stress me out. I wish it was different, but it isn’t and I didn’t want to be stressed out more by her.
If you change your mind and want someone to leave, let your nurse know. She can take the blame in the moment for kicking people out so you don’t have to worry about it. When I was in labor and going back to my room from the tub room, I had her kick everyone out. The time in the tub had me go from labor that was pretty much stalled to active, late labor, so I didn’t want my in laws or dad in there.
Also, expect your hormones/emotions to be a little wacky after. I had no idea I’d end up being so possessive of my son. I was willing to pass him around, but not a lot right away and I had to be ready to hand him over. My Darling Husband asked me to let his mom hold him at one point in time when she came to see us and I wasn’t ready to let go of him just yet and I lost it. Hormones and emotions can get crazy. Don’t feel guilty. Everyone will get to meet and see your child soon enough. This is your child, not theirs.