Post # 1
I am getting ready to ask my girls to be maids. I have seen a million adorable cards/gifts/etc. all over for this purpose but I am wondering, how do you actually put that into action?
The girls I want to ask live far and near (one is even in France which is a whole other set of questions). If I made a card, would I really just send it to her?
Do you invite in person or over the phone and then use your adorable card/gift/etc?
How did you ask your girls (I especially appreciate long distance situations)
Post # 3
A friend of mine asked us in the cutest way. They were little packages and on the outside was a card and it said something like this: “You have watched me and Fiance gather up all of the ingredients for a perfect recipe for love. Now we need you to help us cook up the main event” Inside the box was aprons that had been embroidered with our monogram and then in smaller print Bridesmaids and Maid of Honor. She mailed 3 of them to bm’s across the country. I loved this. The aprons cost her $15.
Post # 4
I think it’s nice to send a note. That way people are not pressured to say yes. Your bridesmaids have time to think about if they have the time and money to committ to your wedding.
Post # 5
My friends just assumed that A. I’d have bridesmaids and B. They’d be one of them. I don’t think that you have to go all out or get overly cute. You can if you really want to but a simple note on pretty stationary is personal and thoughtful. Just state how you feel and let your friend know how much it would mean to you if she were stnding next to you or near you on that day. No matter how you do it, you’re friends will be thrilled that you’re getting married and that you want to include them in your wedding.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
I copied the idea from some previous Bees and made these cute cards! I mailed them to all my girls-I live in California, but my Bridesmaids are in TX, IN, & CA. I was so excited for them to check their mail and when they arrived they all called and accepted right away!
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Post # 7
That makes sense actually, sending a card so that they don’t feel like they have to say yes.
Thanks for all the input. I am really nervous about this because the people I want mean a lot to me, even if I don’t get to see them often enough.
any thoughts about my international potential maid? I definitely don’t want to pressure her.
Post # 8
I found a post somewhere with a riddle (sorry I can’t find it right now) and I re-created it…basically, I put a bunch of stuff in a box that spelled out “Will you be my bridesmaid?” and I mailed (to the far away ones) or gave it to them in person. Will was a picture of Will Ferrell, You was a “ewe”–the animal, I printed out and hot glued cotton balls to, Be–Burt’s Bees chapstick, My–a MaiTai drink mix, Bride–a homemade veil (headband with tulle hotglued to it), Maid–feather duster. I put them all in the box and attached a card that said they had to put all of the clues together to solve the riddle, and their acceptance was sending me a picture of themselves with the homemade veil on! The girls & my bridesman (yes, he got one too) LOVED it! I also included on the back of each card, a sentimental letter from me telling them why I had chosen them.
Post # 9
@amberpdidit: I mailed them to my long distance bridesmaids. Who doesn’t love getting mail?! They loved it and were totally shocked. Each Bridesmaid or Best Man called me when they got the card to accept. 🙂
Post # 10
I bought a small gift (a makeup bag) and made a card. I gave them to the people who lived close in person (I put them in gift bags) and I mailed the ones to people who live out of state (I didn’t call them, I waited for them to receive the package and contact me with their response). It was a little passive, but I’m shy and felt most comfortable doing it this way.
Post # 11
I was totally lame about the whole thing. My sister and best friend knew they’d be bridesmaids, so I didn’t even really have to ask them. The third will be my fiance’s sister, and I did call her to formally ask, but I knew she’d say yes. It would’ve felt strange to make a big production for her and not the other two, and it would’ve felt like overkill to formally ask my only sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor (especially since we’ve been talking about it for 20 years).
Post # 12
Aw I feel like I cheated my bridesmaids now! My Maid/Matron of Honor was at my proposal so I said “you’re gonna be my Maid/Matron of Honor right??”. And then the others I kinda just asked over the phone or in person. I feel like now I need to send them something adorable to make up for it! Worst bride ever.
Post # 13
I wasn’t creative….all I did was send them an email and ask if they would be my bridesmaids 🙂