(Closed) Demote your MOH to BM??

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Are they the only two? Why the need to give them the title, if so? Could you just call them both bm’s? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We don’t have Maid/Matron of Honor so this is a sincere question? Ive seen so much grief on wb regarding MOHs!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@baroness:  Hell no! For three reasons. One, you never ever ask a Maid/Matron of Honor to step down without good reason, and your daughter has done nothing wrong. Two, you don’t do that to a 9 year old, especially your own daughter. And three, after what she has done, no way does ex-bff deserve the Maid/Matron of Honor title back. I would leave BFF out of the wedding party. It’s great that you’re reconciling and of course invite her to the wedding as a guest. But not as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, she has caused too much drama and there is a risk she’ll cause drama again.

But if you go against by advice and invite her back as Bridesmaid or Best Man, NO WAY JOSE do you demote your precious daughter from Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would wait until this time NEXT year to give out titles.  You have more than a year until your wedding and already there has been issues.  I’d stop stressing about it and table it for awhile.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Please please please don’t tell your 9 yo that she’s not moh anymore. Your friend sounds like a brat but your daughter has done nothing wrong. You have over a year til your wedding.. Leave your daughter as moh and within the next year decide if your friend is going to be a guest or bm but she has no business being moh.. Who talks about these things on fb?!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@baroness:  I too had a lot of trouble with my Maid/Matron of Honor. I chose not to ask her to step down, although I would have PLENTY of good reason to. (Not going into details, but trust me… PLENTY of good reason!!) I have to live with my decision to keep her as my Maid/Matron of Honor, and sometimes I feel like I am bothering her when it comes to talking to her about wedding-related things. I feel that if I had asked her to step down or kicked her out of the bridal party all together, than there would be no way to un-do that. 

Only you know your relationship with this girl, and can make the decision regarding letting her back in the bridal party.  If she really is your best friend though, and you do decide to ask her back into the wedding, she should not expect you to ask your daughter to step down as Maid/Matron of Honor. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I sincerely hope you do not ask your 9 y/o daughter to step down as MOH!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Um I would say keep your daughter as Maid/Matron of Honor and your friend as Bridesmaid or Best Man

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