(Closed) Demoted from Matron of Honor to Bridesmaid, advice please

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: After reading about this situation, should I stay a bridesmaid or come only as a guest?
    Accept the role as bridesmaid : (75 votes)
    70 %
    Attend the wedding as a guest : (23 votes)
    21 %
    Forget the friendship and the wedding : (9 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 47
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    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

    @dmk90716:  +1

    Post # 48
    Member
    36 posts
    Newbee

    That sucks. 🙁  I’m sorry.  

    You are obviously hurt (I’d be too, in your situation), and your friend didn’t handle this well AT ALL.  But, as raw as the emotion is now, it’s going to get better over time.  

    Based on your post, I think if you backed out completely and attended your friend’s wedding as a guest, you’d regret it.  Ask yourself if you could see yourself viewing the ceremony and attending her reception as a guest, and if you’d be happy.  If your answer is no, stay in the bridal party.  You would absolutely have a voice in suggesting ideas for bachelorette and shower parties, and it seems like you would love to be involved with your friend’s planning.  In the meantime, reflect and weigh your options.  

    Post # 49
    Member
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    If your title in her wedding is more important than your history and friendship then yes you should back out and not go – I wouldn’t want you there if it was me!

    I think you are over reacting.

    Post # 49
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    2 posts
    Wannabee

    latinpeach04:  My ungrateful friend did the exact same thing to me but I was replaced with a girl she’s known less than a year. AND the bride still comes to ME for advice while the new Maid/Matron of Honor tells me what to wear and how to act at a wedding. Did I mention I used to be a professional WEDDING PLANNER. I think I know what I’m doing! Oh, and the bride moved in with my family my senior year of high school b/c she got kicked out of her house, we brought her on nice family vacations, have been friends for about 12 years but her new “bestie” didnt have a job (while I have 2 full time jobs and a husband) so she could bow to her idiot whim. I also decided to host a shower first and when Maid/Matron of Honor tried to step in and “help” I said no thank you and she planned hers to happen 3 weeks before mine! Of course only 5 people were there. I’m counting down the days until she says “I do” so I can say “I don’t” and leave her immaturity in the dust! 

    Sorry, that got a little ranty

    Post # 50
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    2749 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Just realized thread was 2 years old.

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  Peanut-Sue.

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