- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
hey bees! I need some insight from an outsider’s point of view. Here is the story:
My Fiance has 2 best best friends that he went to college with and couldn’t choose between them to be best man. I had already picked my girls and my Maid/Matron of Honor is my long time bestest friend (nicest girl in the world and I love her to pieces!). He then decided that he was going to have 2 best men lol and that I should pick another girl to be my other Maid/Matron of Honor. I picked/asked a close friend of mine that lives in the area (my bff lives far away). Since then…this friend has been “acting up”. Little things that she does annoys me and is a bit condecending.
When I asked her (only her) to come look for a dress with me..(bridal gown).. She goes ok but I get to try one too :-/ I stayed quiet and she pretty much got the hint.
She went with me to davids bridal to try on a couple dresses before I had picked a bridesmaid dress… except.. she refused to try on any dresses because she didn’t feel like it :-/ Luckily my Bff came in town and helped pick and try on. love her!
We went to a party rental place and all she kept talking about was HER wedding and HER bridal shower and HER HER HER. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not a ME ME ME bride. I dont need the focus to me on me the whole time.. but it is kind of annoying that when I am trying to pick colors and fabrics that she is sidelining me with what she wanted and what she is going for have. She even told me that I can’t have pink at my bridal shower because she wants pink at hers (mind you, we have no mutual friends and she is not even engaged)—
there are many many more instances of her not being a good friend let alone Maid/Matron of Honor and I think that is what is bothering me the most. Fast foward– 1 of FI’s BMs told us that he will be deployed to Afganistan for our wedding :-(((((((( So, would it be OK for me at this time to explain to her the situation (about the best men) and ask her to be a bridesmaid? I think I was too caught up in the situation with Fiance when I asked her and I wasn’t even considering my BFF’s feelings.. though she would never say…I am sure she was a little taken back that I made this other friend Maid/Matron of Honor also. Input? Ideas?
P.s. When I asked said friend to be Maid/Matron of Honor I explained that Fiance had 2 best men and this is why I was asking her to be Maid/Matron of Honor also.