Demotivated about the look and feel of our wedding

posted 2 months ago in Emotional
Post # 19
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think your wedding sounds like it will be lovely and very romantic.  I would love to attend!  😉  

We wanted ours to be on a beautiful beach right before sunset.  I had chosen a perfect simple gown, we wanted to be barefoot and very casual, etc.  However, it did not turn out that way. 

My husband’s mother was in a wheelchair (before she passed away) and she simply couldn’t get through the sand (or didn’t want to).  She really wanted us to have our wedding in her (amazing, beautiful, huge) back garden, so we did.  Our sunset wedding became a twilight, candlelit garden wedding intead of my beach vision.  It turned out wonderfully even though it wasn’t my dream at first.  Your wedding will be perfect, I can’t wait to see pictures.

Post # 20
2414 posts
Buzzing bee

I haven’t read any of the responses, just wanted to share what we did. 

We live in a city that is relatively close to mountains and national parks. But to host a wedding out in “nature” is a hassle for the guests, especially as many of ours were flying in.

So we had our ceremony in the city in the morning, then drove out to a beautiful spot with our photogs, spent a few hours tramping around and taking photos, then drove back and met everyone back in the city at the reception venue.

Our guests had ~5 hours to themselves to either go out on the town or relax in their hotel rooms.

Post # 21
2180 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

margaerybeerell :  that sounds like a lovely engagement shoot! Alright my next suggestion then would be: trash the dress /1 year anniversary photo shoot out in nature? 🙂 

Post # 22
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019


I always imagined an autumn wedding but due to similair reasons as you, I’ve ended up with a June wedding during summer which is my least favourite season!! 

A lot of my decisions just sort of happened same as yours. I ended up with a dress I don’t love so I am getting it altered (boat neck into a plunge neck) 

our reception is in a french gothic church and quite formal. Then for the reception I have a short white bell sleeved white lace dress (super boho) and a flower crown. Totally different vibe. My second dress wasn’t expensive at all  

The things that you can’t change you have to try to accept. The things that you can – get a second dress that you feel is sexy and boho, look on etsy for floral crowns, can you change any of the cutlery/plates/glasses (ie change to mason jars instead of wine glasses) look up boho lux weddings on Pinterest. That will give you heaps of ideas on how to merge the ideas xx 

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