Post # 1
Hi all! My mom recently suggested the idea of a “denim and diamonds” dress code for our wedding, and I am absolutely in love with it! The way she presented it was that people wear (nice) jeans as pants, and then wear a really nice top/accessories. I love this idea for a million and one reasons – I think it allows people to get creative with attire but still be comfortable. My mom also points out that most photos of guests are from the waist up, so the photos can still look super nice. I can see this just being really cool – especially for the bridespeople/groomspeople (there are a couple of guys who will be on my side!). I also just think it will make our wedding “different”, and truer to us. We’re not super fancy people or anything. We’re getting married in a remodeled barn-type room.
Now here’s the problem, my main man does not love the idea. I think that he imagines it looking trashy or way too “country”. He’s more for the traditional formal/semi-formal attire. He doesn’t want our wedding to look like a barn dance or anything. That’s not the way I envision it, though, and I love my mom’s description of it. But when I try to find pictures of “denim and diamonds” online, there are people wearing checkered shirts and such. Basically, I know what my mom’s describing, and I can see it in my head and fall in love with it, but I can’t find any pictures to convince my fiance that it can look amazing!
So, has anyone ever done/seen this denim and diamonds idea at a wedding or other typically formal event? Can anyone point me to pictures of said event? Or alternately, has anyone done a dress code that is different than the typical formalware, but still looked nice enough to placate those who prefer the more traditional? Please help, bees!
Post # 3
Coming from the perspective of a guest, I’d be kind of put off by this…it’s generally frowned upon to mention a dress code unless it’s for an important reason – like if it’s at a country club and the guests won’t be allowed in without a suit jacket or something. But I don’t think you can tell people they have to wear jeans.
I’m kinda with your Fiance on this one…if he wants the wedding to be a bit more formal I’d try to find a way to compromise with him, if he’s against the idea of encouraging people to wear jeans I doubt you’ll have much luck convincing him it’s a good look, and sorry but his opinion on the overall formal-ness of the wedding should count more than your mom’s. And as far as pictures go…pretty much none of my pro shots are from the waist up. They don’t take pictures the same way a relative with a digital camera would.
Post # 4
Will this be the style of dress for the bridal party as well?
Post # 5
I must concur with your Fiance on this one. To me, this sounds like it would work much better as a potential theme for your bridal shower or bachelorette party (involving a smaller, more intimate group of people in a much more casual setting) than it does for your wedding.
Post # 6
Sorry, I’m with your Fiance and PP on this too. I don’t think it would turn out like your image at all. I wear jeans everyday to work with what I consider a “nice” top, in a business casual environment, that I would wear to a bar or club, but I would never think of it as wedding appropriate.
Post # 7
I love smart casual. I think most people can look better in nice jeans than chinos or khakis. But no one looks better than in a tux (or suit) or formal gown.
I’m with your main man on this one – there are so many ways it could go wrong.
Post # 8
I agree with Fiance as well that this doesn’t sound like a good idea at all. Also pro photographers will be taking pics at various angles and not just the waist up…. I would skip telling people what to wear!
Post # 9
Sorry, I don’t think it will look good at all. I picture the same thing your Fiance does. And if I were a guest I would be annoyed and most likely not follow it.
Unless your venue is that casual where jeans are appropriate. Then I guess I wouldn’t mind wearing one of my going out to a nice bar type outfits (jeans and a nice top as you described). I have done that in the past when attending an informal wedding.
Post # 10
In theory in your head this might be great, but I think in reality it will backfire… Guests will probably see denim and think “sweet I can wear jeans” and take it pretty casual from there. Especially the guys!
Post # 11
Wowza – OK, message received! I guess it’s not a great idea. Thanks for the input.
But to be clear, I did not intend this to be off-putting or restrictive for guests, I honestly thought it would be a cool way to make our wedding a little different and more comfortable for guests. I’m at that ripe old age of late 20s where every other weekend is someone else’s wedding, and I’m worried that people (including me!) will be bored of the same old wedding scene.
Again, thanks for the input. I got it.
Post # 12
@shortysax: Hahaha. I totally get where you’re coming from. You’d see that on an invite and put on your 7seven jeans, stilletto booties, sequin top, and look super hot. But my BFF’s husband would wear the same button down short sleeve shirt he wore to my (obviously formal) wedding this past spring. Maybe even just a tshirt if it said “jeans”. You know what they say – give them an inch, they’ll take a mile.