@JessSeny: I just found a form going over diffrent forms of PD and thought she most fits in DPD, nothing was ever documented saying she has any of them, but…IDK, im kind of lost shes such a mean person.
…she has 4 children and always send them photos of herself and going on dating sites and always aks “dont i look good, im amazing” always making herself the center of attention
she lives by herself,she collecets SSI because of being “depressed/bipolar” and not being able to get a job she is 55years old. she guilts her sister/children/ex husband/ and the new guy she dates into giving her money to pay her car, buy her new clothing for the job interview (that she never goes on) smokes, groceries, getting her hair done ect… when one family member tells her no she hurts them both(but not always at the same time) mentaly and physicaly , they come from a very religious family and she always tells them,that they will never go to heaven because God said you should help those in need and i need moeny so help me” and her family feels guilted into doint whatever for her. it is really sad.
—She has told me “you dont love yourself”, i asked how she came to that conclusion, she said “because yuo dress like your poor, and you dont want anyone to look at you, your hair is short like a F** and you never wear makeup, you dont love yourself, if you wore shorts the shorter they are the more attention you will get, your old and frumpy you have no class and dont know how to dress” — Im 27year old, i wear Jeans, Converse sneakers, and a tshirt/ hoodie , if im going someplace nice i have black slacks, i dont like dresses, i have them i dont wear them often. Her on the other hand she is 55years old, shes got a nice figure but she dresses in clothing from the JR department of stores, all her dresses are always inches near her butt cheeks, she dresses like a woman on the street…im sorry to say it but her clothing attire is very provocative and luring to men.
—ok FI and I both work two jobs, for us to get a Saturday off together is unheard of, we have been together for about 3months. Well she had called him the day before to ask “can i use the washer” he said “ok, but we are leaving the house at 2 because we are going into the city and spending time together so be hear before then (she dont have a key to the house) – i went down to get our things out of the washer in thinking she would be over soon. when i was down the basement she had called him and said” if you cant wait for me you are no damn good and you are useless to me, you are no son of mine. he responded with “mom we are leaving at 2 its 1030 now, you have enough time to get here its only a 20min ride for you mom: I dont care i want to get my hair and nails done later today so you just wait at that house till i show up” FI: we are leaving at 2 and that’s it. she then hung up on him. (mind you she does not work, she could have went any day)
well 2 came around and we had left, didnt hear anything from her. We got into the car and i looked at my cell, she had called me and left me a message, i put it on speaker because it was his mother maybe he needed to hear whatever she said. this is what she said ” you, YOU are no damn good you are a heartless woman and your stealing my child away, that is not your house you have no say in what my son does how dareyou come in and tell him to treat his mother like dirt, the same way you treat your own mother, you are no woman you are a skum dirty dog, you should leave my son alone…..that message went on like that for 10min.” At no point did i ever tell my FI that she cant come over. so he called her and yelled at her saying not to talk to me like that so she just hung up, I never got an apology from her , she texted me saying ” I told______(sons name) that i was sorry, and that i wouldn’t do it again” i asked him later taht day and he never got a message from her… so she lied. i was just so shocked that a mother would freak out on me so bad like that over something i didnt do..
–I honesty dont know what to do to ever make her happy she always twists stories and makes herself to be the injured one in the stories. she is mean, and does not ever want to hear she did something to start an argument, I dont know what to do i dont want my new MIL to hate me but i cant even look at her any more she makes me want to just cry.
– i would really like to know if what she has is it hereditary, we have been talking about kids and i want to know whats going on, because her sister said their mother was somewhat like that… Do you know anything of these stories? do you know someone in your life like this?