(Closed) Deployed with a Dress Dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should I order my dress now, or wait to purchase?
    Order one now - trust Mom & sister's judgement : (16 votes)
    41 %
    Wait & buy off-the-rack, sample, or used : (21 votes)
    54 %
    Other - please explain! : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Bee
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

    @bumblepup:  That’s a really hard decision. I honestly would say wait until you are home and do it that way. That way you can be 100% sure that it’s the dress that you want. It might be a little more stressful, but probably better than coming  home only to find that you don’t really like the dress and are stuck with it.

    Also, as a sister to a soldier, thank you for what you do. I know it’s not easy to be so far away from your loved ones, and I’m sure during such a happy time, it’s even harder. So thank you!!

    Post # 4
    Member
    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @bumblepup:  Will your sister and mom take pics that you can see? Full body and detail shots? I can’t imagine any shop wouldn’t let them take pics if they explain the situation, even if they normally wouldn’t allow it. If you’ll be able to see the pics, then I say go that route.

    Buying off the rack would be great, but its really limited. I’m approximately the same size as you and looking for about the same thing- but the samples/  used shops I’ve been to didn’t carry anything near that. Everything was several sizes too big, or if there was any lace it was strapless. So I think thats the riskier option.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’d order, but I’d order only dresses I can return, and I’d order closer to your wedding (multiple dresses, if you can). 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would wait, specifically because you are sample sized and therefore should be able to  find something in stock. What if you asked your mom and/or sister to do some research on local bridal salons and find out when they sell off their samples? Also find out what size samples they typically carry. I bought a sample dress totally by accident as I was shopping with my mom for a MOB dress and the salon happened to be selling  off two racks of samples. Most were wedding size 10 or 12 but there were some other sizes as well. I bought the dress and they had it ready for pick up in 2-3 days (checking beading, etc.) but I hear many salons will let you take it home instantly giving you plenty of time to find something and get any necessary alterations. I would also suggest you look online at off the rack dresses from stores with return policies like Nordstrom. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    Also FWIW I have yellow skin undertones and found ivory was actually more flattering in person despite what people told me ahead of time. There are many shades of ivory in the wedding world so don’t rule it all out entirely.

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    23607 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    That pronovias is gorgeous on you!!! Could you have mom and sis order that one for you? I think you’d look just stunning!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @bumblepup:  WOW that dress looks fantastic on you! I bet it wouldn’t be hard to have a seamstress add sleeves or straps. Maybe have your mom and sister go to a local seamstress and ask about it to give you an idea of your options and cost.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Wow, that dress is stunning on you! I normally don’t like strapless but that style is beautiful – with a bolero, you could likely get the coverage you want.

    I ordered my dress online sight-unseen, but I wasn’t going for a traditional wedding dress and spent less than $200, so I knew if I truly hated it, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. I ended up very pleased, but I know there are lots of women who’ve bought dresses without having the chance to try them on themselves who didn’t end up so lucky. If stores allow your family to take pictures and your sister has a similar skin-tone, it might not be a huge risk, but it definitely has the potential to end up with you in a dress you don’t love.

    Stay safe!

    ETA -I just remembered a dress I saw while my mum and I had been looking at more traditional wedding gowns with some coverage- it’s also Pronovias so the price might be more than you’re budgetting, but though I’d put up a pic in case it’s something you might like. I think it’s a mermaid silhouette but I don’t really know a lot of that stuff so might be wrong!

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