(Closed) Depressed about our date

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I really felt that way at times. I don’t know if it helps… but once I hit the six months away mark, things started to feel a lot closer. Maybe it would help to make a list of wedding things to get done every month? Once I did that, I started feeling like, “Phew, I am so glad the wedding isn’t in a month!” Other than that, I guess my best advice is try to take your mind off the wedding when you can. If you keep yourself occupied, the time will feel like it is going quicker 😉 It is hard when you are so excited about something, though- keep your chin up!

Post # 4
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7457 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

What made you choose such a long engagement?

Post # 6
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Are there projects you could start working on for your wedding ?  
 We were LDR until about 3 mos before our wedding, and it hurt not being with him.  I talked to my dad about it (my mom passed away like 10 years ago) and he said they had the same thing.  He said .. it’s a process, you have forever together,  listen to whatever song makes you think of him/her to go to sleep (theirs was a beach boys song), talk to people about it. 

He talked to his Mom about it and she told him ….. “Suck it up… I was engaged to your father for 7 years before we had the money for marriage/place to live .. you have to wait a few months … seriously pray on it and it will go faster than you think”

Last one is tossed in there to make you laugh.  It will go by so fast, wishing and hoping your engagement time away is like when we were …waiting for the next thing … 8th grade, 9th grade, HS graduation.  It will go fast!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve felt that way too. FH and I got engaged in September 2010 and we’re getting married March 2014. That’s a really long time. For the first bit, time went by so slowly. I thought that the day would never come and I spent a lot of time being upset that it was taking so long. Now, I realize that it’s almost here and I wish I would have spent more time planning. For me, the 15 month mark really hit me.  It feel like only yesterday I was saying that my wedding was next year. Now January is almost over and I feel like I have no time at all to get anything done! Of course, I’m in school full time too so I have to study and plan a wedding. 

Relax, keep yourself occupied and you’ll be fine. It’ll be here before you know it!

 

Post # 8
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4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Aww… I soooorta know how you feel. Saying goodbye is so hard, we were long distance and I looked forward to moving in so we didn’t have to say goodbye anymore. 

What made you choose not to live with him? Living with my FH is really helping me wait for the awesomeness that is going to be our wedding… though I am still wanting it to come sooner and the time does seem to craawwwwlll. I’d never for a second give up living with him for anything though.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

you are absolutely not alone! Except I am further away!

I have been engaged almost 4 months.. and we have 16 to go! It feels like forever and it is always on my mind!

Try not to overanalyse time though.. I like to think about what I was doing 16 months ago, and it doesnt feel like that time was far away AT ALL… you are finally under a year! It will make the time when you are living together so much more special!

My Fiance and I talk abotu moving our wedding up ALL the time because we want a home together and we dont want to leave at the end of the night.. but we keep thinking that it will all be worth it in the end 🙂

Plan and keep busy, time WILL go by fast!

Post # 10
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5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had a 2 year engagement, and there were times I thought we would NEVER get married!  I decided to set some goals for myself during that time, so as not to burn out on wedding planning, but also because even as a part of a couple, and especially in a marriage, I knew I would still need to be my own individual.  I got back into longer distance running, and during my engagement I did 2 half marathons, a full marathon, and got a personal best in a 5k!  I also bought a house, which we live in now.  I’m healthier, happier, and more confident in myself as a person which makes me a better partner and a better wife to my husband.

Did it make a 2 year engagement go by any faster?  Maybe, but it surely made the wait easier 🙂

Post # 11
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1124 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I felt like that in the beginning of the engagement. We are not just a few weeks away and time FLEW by. Once the planning goes into motion time will fly by and you’ll be stuck wishing you had more time

Post # 12
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We’ve been engaged for awhile, and we set our wedding in 2014. I’m staying pretty occupied, and thank goodness I DO have that extra time, as I’ve already switched venues twice. It takes some work finding the best place that offers everything we want.

 

Post # 13
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I totally get what you’re saying we are 6 months into our 3 year engagement, we’ve been together for 4 years and won’t live together for another year and a half, you’ll be married before I get to live my guy. We are finally down to 894 days.  I just keep reminding myself to enjoy this time and waiting so long will make being married to him so much better.  I hope this time flies for you.!

Post # 14
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i wish i still had 10 months out!!!! were under 5 months, and let me tell you this is when stuff starts to pick up, FAST! all the small minute details you never though about now become so mind consuming. trust me! once you hit that 6 month mark you will be BUSY BUSY BUSY!

Post # 15
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4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Sweetie, time will speed up I swear! I was/am engaged for 16 months and it seemed.SO. FAR. AWAY but then it flies!!!! 

What I did is every month I had a fun DIY project to do. It made things manegeable and gave me something to do.

Enjoy this time in your life, it’s so special!!!

Post # 16
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927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’ll fly by the closer you get! Use this time to your advantage though! Anything you can do to get ahead with planning, you’ll be soooo glad you did when that date gets closer!

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