(Closed) Depressing Question

posted 10 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 47
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Losing weight is tough.  There is no doubt about it.  You mentioned having tried Weight Watchers, and it not having worked for you.  May I recommend keeping a detailed log of every food you eat, including their calorie totals?  Yes, it will be a pain.  But it will make you think about every food you eat.  Eventually, calorie amounts will become ingrained in your head (1 tsp. butter = 100 calories, cup of orange juice, around 110, etc.).  And, as someone else mentioned, 3500 calorie deficit is what it takes to lose one pound.  If you create a calorie deficit, you will lose weight.  You really, really will.

You may feel discouraged now but

1) when you start to lose weight, there is a feeling of accomplish that will certainly encourage you, and

2) someone asked you to marry him.  So, there is something beautiful about you, and you found someone that sees it, regardless of your weight.

 

Post # 48
Member
45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Losing weight is tough.  There is no doubt about it.  You mentioned having tried Weight Watchers, and it not having worked for you.  May I recommend keeping a detailed log of every food you eat, including their calorie totals?  Yes, it will be a pain.  But it will make you think about every food you eat.  Eventually, calorie amounts will become ingrained in your head (1 tsp. butter = 100 calories, cup of orange juice, around 110, etc.).  And, as someone else mentioned, 3500 calorie deficit is what it takes to lose one pound.  If you create a calorie deficit, you will lose weight.  You really, really will.

You may feel discouraged now but

1) when you start to lose weight, there is a feeling of accomplish that will certainly encourage you, and

2) someone asked you to marry him.  So, there is something beautiful about you, and you found someone that sees it, regardless of your weight.

 

Post # 49
Member
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You definitely don’t have to look like a supermodel to feel beautiful on your wedding day. Just remember what you are there to do: exchange incredible vows with your incredible Fiance, and that is the most important thing. Everything will just fall in place, and he will make you feel like a million bucks, I am sure. Just be happy!

Post # 51
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hi holtesl:

I just wanted to write to you to let you know that I have been in that place before.  Where I ate healthy, worked out a LOT and couldn’t loose.

Honestly the best thing for me was to start very strictly counting my calories.  I started using a program called nutrimirror on line.  It’s free, and it’ helped me immensely.  It helped me to notice little things that were adding up that I would have NEVER realized.

I am down 64 pounds in about 11 months.  I still have a few more to go, but it’s been pretty lifechanging.  You can still enjoy food, you just learn how much you can enjoy & you balance it in with the rest of your week.

Best of luck, and if you need more info, feel free to PM me!

Post # 52
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hotlesl-

Glad to hear it!  My Fiance told me that the South Beach was very difficult in the beginning.  He was sort of hungry and did crave the carbs and sugar.  BUT he says that now, he doesn’t crave it anymore… and sometimes when he does eat something with a bit too much sugar it makes him feel sick/bloated.  So keep that in mind… it won’t always be hard.

Post # 53
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1732 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Good for you!  I like South Beach if I can get past day 3.  The first few weeks can be tricky, but worth it!

And take your Fiance with you on those walks! You can still share that time together!

Post # 54
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136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

ALL brides are beautiful!!! Don’t be so hard on yourself. You have a guy who’s madly in love with you, enough to marry you- that’s already more than tons of the skinniest girls in the world have to show for. Hope you feel better!

Post # 55
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1029 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m so happy you talked to your Fiance about this!! And I agree South Beach sounds like a great thing to try. It really is amazing how addicted all of us are on sugar and carbs (someone else mentioned how incredibly caloric and sugary a simple glass of orange juice is – and we are all led to believe it’s ‘healthy’). Plus those things cause major jumps and deficits in blood sugar as we eat throughout the day (you eat a big piece of bread, or a bag of pretzels, or a glass of OJ, then feel great and “buzzed”, then you metabolize it really quickly and crash and feel awful and tired, then you crave it and mistake that for hunger, you eat it and it starts again – repeat 3-4 times a DAY!!). I get really moody and depressed when I eat too much sugar AND gain weight. I think you’ll feel more motivated if you can even stick to South Beach for just one week because you’ll see results immediately. That’s part of why it’s designed that way – detox you from all carbs and sugar, you see results, you feel better, then in Phase 2 you get to phase *some* of that stuff back in slowly, but by then you don’t even want it because you’ve un-addicted yourself.

And I agree on what everyone else said – I used to think I was eating SO healthy and couldn’t figure out for the life of me why I wasn’t losing weight.. just a peanut butter sandwich and salad for lunch! Once I started looking up the caloric content online, I realized that meal would sometimes top 600 calories (roughly half of what I was trying to eat in a day) – due to avocado, peanut butter, beans, and some other stuff… all healthy sources of protein, but I was totally oblivious to how it was adding up. Cream sauces are definitely what is putting you over the edge. I bet even if you just cut those out, you’d drop some weight!!

Good luck!!

Post # 56
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2889 posts
Sugar bee

I too struggle with motivation and finding time to exercise. For me the biggest calorie issue is lunch as I often go out with colleagues and even ordering a salad packs a lot of calories when it comes pre dressed! I lost about 7-8 pounds last summer and kept it off until Christmas and then I was up 11 pounds. Now I’m down 4 which puts me back to where I started before losing any weight with 100 days until the wedding. I’m trying to take advantage of the summer and bike to work (I don’t know if this is even an option for you but for me it’s about 300 calories a day burned). Also, I bought an elliptical machine so I can watch TV and exercise at home. The way I looked at it was the cost was about the same as a year membership to the local gym and it requires less time because there’s no transport. I have not been as good about doing it 3 times a week as intended but am working on that. I’m counting calories on ww.caloriecount.about.com and trying to stay at 1300 to 1400 per day which would set me up to lose one pound per week (healthy). Try it out, I find it’S a great way to keep myself in line and even when I go over, I see it. I also see what I’m missing (calcium, Protein, etc.) or too high one (sat. fats, sodium, etc.). I guess I’m trying to suggest ways to work exercise into your schedule. I would not call myself a success story but I too am working on a lifestyle change. I chose the elliptical machine because my cousin lost over 100 pounds using his daily and monitoring diet over the course of a year which really jump started his fitness. I will be happy to lose 10 more pounds but I see that it is possible with dedication. Good luck making your changes.

Post # 57
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1220 posts
Bumble bee

when i first start dieting again i like to jumpstart my diet with Low Carbs for a month or two… it really helps jump start..

I originally lost 60+ lbs on ATKINS but obviously you can’t stay with that diet forever… so i gained all that back..

I started a few months ago i started with ATKINS and now i am still on a 1200 calorie diet. It is working out.. I am also going to the gym 4 times a week.. I am weight training and doing over 60 min of elyptical in intervals or treadmill on high incline in intervals..

But then again everyone is different.. maybe try a high intensity work out

Post # 58
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61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

seriously weight watchers

 

 

and i went to mexico i weighed 150 i got these half blue half yellow pills appetite surperssents i went in aug i think by x mas i was 120

 

for reall mexico for a bag of em its 20

Post # 59
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

@sweetmaple: diet pills from mexico? I would be extremely careful about those…

@OP: Congrats on setting out on a healthy plan for weight loss 😀

Post # 61
Member
2006 posts
Buzzing bee

@holtesl: Join our weekly WORKOUT BUDDIES threads. We post our weight loss, eating habits, and workout programs every Monday. It is really helpful to have people to be accountable too 🙂

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