(Closed) Depressing Question

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Post # 62
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Once you make a habit of eating right and exercising, it really does become a part of your lifestyle. next thing you know, the carbs make you want to take a nap at 2pm and the sugars make you all high and the exercise just makes you feel GOOD.

Give it some time, don’t overdo it, and good luck! I used to be a butter/carb/sugar-aholic =]

Post # 63
1765 posts
Buzzing bee


I am plus-sized and I know how you feel.  I am the only person in my family that is.  Everyone else in my family is a very slender.  It is really hard to be the only one that “cannot” eat _______.  Anyway, I often choose substitutions for things.  For example, if I want something cold and creamy instead of serving ice cream, I will have some applesauce.  If I want something crunchy instead of potato chips I will have popcorn-with some cooking oil spray and butter buds, or a square or two of dark chocolate or low-fat chocolate milk instead of a piece of chocolate cake.  If I get go out and I order a salad I will have salad dressing on the side, and dip my fork in the dressing.  I recently did that with an alfredo pasta dish.  I was probably served almost a cup of alfredo sauce!!!  But I got the taste of it, by dipping my fork tines in the sauce instead.  I hope this helps!!!   And as others here have said, your Fiance loves you for who you are, and that’s not about a size!  I bet he will be more than happy to be creative with his cooking talent to make you feel happier with yourself!!  Be good to yourself, and maybe reward yourself with small things when you do really well.  A new pair of earrings (they fit me, no matter what size I am), lol, or a new nail polish or lipstick are nice ways to reward yourself for a job well done.  🙂 

Post # 64
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@holtesl: I feel ya. Mr Musical loves to cook all sorts of greasy, cajun dishes, and bake yummy white bread. I finally had to tell him, “You can make whatever you want to for dinner, but unless it’s healthy, I’m eating THIS *holds up Lean Cuisine*.” He agreed to talk with me about it, and after he realized that I wanted to look beautiful on our wedding day, and that a large part of it was for him (not to mention the fact that I’d be very disappointed in myself if I didn’t lose the weight), he changed his ways of cooking.

Now we eat a lot of recipes from Hungry Girl and the Fix it and Forget It Lightly cookbook. He’s lost ten pounds, but the best part of all was when we were in the yogurt section of the grocery store the other day and he pointed at a container of Fiber One yogurt and said “Look! It’s the Hungry Girl! Should we get this?” Sometimes you just gotta give them a chance to be supportive.

Post # 65
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not sure if others mentioned it, but you may want to flip the meals around. Eating larger portion in the morning, smaller at lunch and smallest at dinner. I know I have made the mistake SEVERAL times in my life of almost starving myself all day and splurging at dinner. Not a good idea. I am such the yo-yo’er and trying to get back on the wagon of losing weight and exercising. 

Good luck to you and try not to be too hard on yourself. Remember, the comments you make to yourself, would ever say those to another person? Probably not, so remember to be kind to yourself!!

Post # 67
374 posts
Helper bee

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@holtesl:  CONGRATS on your weight loss!  I read all of this thread and from the beginning until your most recent update, you have very obviously made some great changes for yourself.  How awesome — you should be very proud of yourself!  Now tell me…what did you do?  Were you able to stick to South Beach?  I’m curious (and in need of weight loss badly)!

Post # 69
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

A) Congrats on the success!

B) I also have struggled for my entire life with weight… the best thing I have ever found is paying a trainer at a gym.  It is a hard pill to swallow paying for the training fees at first.  The trainers I have had have made me show them my food log when I go into to see them, keeps my food intake accountable.  I view training sessions like doctors appointments and the workouts and food plans to be like prescriptions, keeps me going to the gym and working out according to the plan.  Sounds a bit whacky perhaps but it makes it harder for me to cheat when I have a trainer that I am connected with. I have also had to push trainers to “prescribe” my weekly workout.  IE they tell me how many times a week, how long and what.  That is the weekly prescription.

Having a trainer also provides a challenge and sets aside the time and space for me to focus on a healthy body.  Committed to those appointments and financially committed to success.

And for a long time I thought I needed to be at a certain level before working with a trainer… I finally committed, my mom has had similar body issues and convinced her and she raves about having a trainer now. 

I hope it is helpful, definitely a believer in balancing the food and the exercise… I do have to cut my calorie intake to 1100-1300 calories a day to lose in addition to working out several times a week.

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