(Closed) Des it creep you out when bees track other bees?

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 62
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Not really, some bees are notorious in the hive, some for good reasons, some for less than good ones…

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@Regina Phalange:  … me too… and I was like “well, is she?”

And I don’t think it’s creepy. Adds context. Plus if someone says something incredibly enlightened (or headdesk inducing), chances are there are more gems.

Post # 64
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I can think of only a couple instances where I would go as far as to call it “creepy”. The fact checking bees are quite useful, I find. I remember one thread where a bee posted a pic of her body, asking if she was too fat or something, and most of us responded that she looked great, but then a bee remembered her previous posts, and offered a better response regarding how she should actually seek therapy or something since this was an ongoing issue. I find that sorta thing more helpful than creepy.

Post # 65
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@BlondeMissMolly:  I always associate you with pretty rings hehe <3

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sometimes I creep on posting history if a poster seems to have a huge amount of drama going on all the time. 

Post # 68
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t think it’s creepy, some people just have a good memory for that kind of stuff. (I’m not one of them, haha)

If you don’t want people following what you do… don’t post on the internet.

The only thing that’s bothered me that I’ve seen a few times is when people go through someone’s post history just to dig up evidence to critisize them in a current thread. 

Post # 69
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i’ve done research on an OP before. mostly in the TTC boards when someone is asking for advice or other help. sometimes looking into their past postings really helps to identify a problem and better find a solution.

but i’ll also do it if OP references a previous post or if i see their name popping up frequently on drama threads.

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No, I don’t think it’s creepy. For regular posters, their posts stand out usually because I see them often and therefore get to remembering who they are. Or sometimes, someone will post several threads on the same thing over time and I’ll think, “This sounds familiar, I wonder…” Sometimes it was just one thread, but it really stood out to me.

And if it’s a huge emotional thread, I sometimes take a brief look at their history to get some context. There was one person on another site who posted a huge thread about how their BFF made a comment that she was concerned the OP’s marriage would quickly fail. OP claimed there was absolutely no reason for this, that the BFF just pulled it out of nowhere. So I wanted some context, looked at what else she had posted, and found another thread two months prior about her going on a first date with a foreign guy. Well, then yeah, I can see why her BFF was concerned for her.

All posts are public. Going through someone’s post history in extreme detail, or stalking another bee (i.e. bookmarking their page and going through it all the time) or something is a bit much, but browsing through to gain context or insight on a person is just what happens when you post your opinion to a public forum.

Post # 71
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@canarydiamond:  haha not a bad thing to be associated with! Its’s funny though because that’s like the last thing my real life friends would say. I don’t really wear jewelry, I just started getting interested when we started ring shopping!

Post # 72
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The most serious creeping I’ve done is when I noticed someone posted a new thread about bathing suits, underwear, workout clothes, domination/s&m and blowjobs Everyday.  People were answering the questions openly and I felt like this person was trolling for “material”. The more I creeped the more this confirmed it for me so I outed them.

 

otherwise, I have also thread followed the bee with the ring I’m waiting for so I could see pics 🙂 

 

i use this site with full awareness that at any time, someone who doesn’t like something I said can go back and criticize me for anything I ever said here… probably a good reminder for those who end up fighting on every thread 

Post # 73
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, it’s weird.  To get a better insight or to snoop, sure, not that weird.  To throw out, hey I see your post from thread 86 post 77  from 3 years ago where you said this, and it wasn’t a conversation between the two, creeper status!

 

Post # 74
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@firefliesinthesky:  +1 This, exactly.

I think it’s important to gain context. Also, sometimes I use post history to make sure that something totally outlandish is not clearly a troll and maybe someone who just really has missed out on basic information. In addition, I also sometimes like to use posting history to see whether I even want to engage with someone. There are a few bees that I have really differing opinions from and for the most part I think that’s totally fine if they’re respectful. However, sometimes I might read a few threads from someone over the course of a few weeks or months, not remember their name, but remember the situation. Depending on how those threads played out, I decide whether I want to take the time to respond to them. 

For example, sometimes on the bee, there are people who post questions and then freak out when they don’t get the answer they’re looking for. If I’ve noticed a poster seemed familiar and it’s the top of the post, I’ll check the history and move on if I think the thread will turn into a blowout. 

I also think it helps for context when someone is talking about their relationship. I think it helps other bees give better advice. 

And FYI- Your threads can be read online by non-WB members. So if you’re really concerned about privacy, WB might not be the site for you.

Post # 75
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Busy Beekeeper

Nope. Doesn’t bother me in the least. Some people are full of it, and if they claim one thing and there is evidence that THEY Voluntarily submitted on a public forum, how is it creepy? It’s simply fact.

Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

the only people whose screennames I remember are people I like and people I don’t like. I’m more likely to remember a thread than who posted it. This is why sometimes I’ll read a followup thread or an update and think “ohhh, you must be the girl who posted so-and-so awhile back.” But it’s not like I keep a spreadsheet on it or anything.

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